Stop Being Hijacked By Anxiety, Grief, and Anger — A Buddhist Approach | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren
5/27/20261 hr 3 min
On regulating emotions, ending the war with reality, and feeling more alive.
Sebene Selassie is an author and meditation teacher. She writes the popular newsletter remind me to love and her first book is called, You Belong.
Jeff Warren is an author and meditation teacher. He writes the popular newsletter Home Base and is the coauthor, along with Dan, of a book called Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics. And he is the co-host of the mind/bod adventure pod.
Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here, or sign up to livestream here!
In this episode we talk about:
- The 5 hindrances (a classic Buddhist list of everything that goes wrong when you sit down to meditate)
- Why your brain keeps wandering, numbing out, or picking fights with reality
- The difference between being tired… and just not wanting to deal
- How to catch yourself before you go full autopilot
- The "five recollections" of aging, sickness and death, and why they're actually grounding
- The comparing mind
- How to step back and watch your thoughts instead of immediately buying into them
- Why the people in your life might be confused by the new, slightly calmer you
Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here, or sign up to livestream here!
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First 90 secondsDan Harris· Host0:00
[upbeat music] This is the 10% Happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. [upbeat music] Hello, everybody. Today, we're gonna talk about how to tame some of the more unruly aspects of your mind, your tendency to live on autopilot, to constantly distract yourself, and to make yourself miserable by comparing yourself to other people, and more. Why are you so often at war with reality, wanting to be elsewhere or otherwise? In essence, my guests are gonna talk today about how to develop a different relationship to your mind, with all of its skittering thoughts and unhelpful patterns. Said guests are the great meditation teachers and great friends, uh, Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren. Seb is the author of an awesome book called You Belong. She's based in Brooklyn, New York. Seb and I recently, uh, co-authored and co-recorded an audiobook, an Audible Original called Even You Can Meditate. Jeff and I also co-authored a book called Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics. Jeff is based in, uh, Canada, and he's got his own podcast called The Mind-Bod Adventure Pod. The conversation you're about to hear was recorded live at our annual Meditation Party retreat. Jeff, Seb, and I co-host