282. Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal: You're Not Resilient. You're Just Coping. Here’s 5 Practices of Highly Resilient People
6/30/20261 hr 11 min
Roughly 82% of autoimmune diseases show up in women, and the cause may not be what you think. In this episode, I sit down with resilience researcher Dr. Taryn Marie to unpack how the stress you hide rewires your nervous system, why "toughing it out" is actually the opposite of resilience, and the three questions I'm now asking myself every morning. She also opens up about the 20-year secret she hid from everyone and a study where babies who had food, water, and everything but one thing still didn't survive.
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Timestamps
00:00 - Intro of Show
01:14 - The genesis: brain injury recovery
07:11 - Why resilience is misunderstood
08:19 - The five practices and what resilience isn't
09:41 - Recovery over bouncing back fast
11:41 - Vulnerability as the foundation
13:46 - Stress, autoimmune disease, and women
18:00 - Emotional expression vs suppression
19:42 - Defining productive perseverance
22:12 - Connection and the Blue Zones
28:38 - Grandiosity and reframing trauma
37:20 - Twenty years of hidden PTSD
42:09 - Practical evidence-based tools
43:22 - Naming your emotions
44:16 - Reframing guilt and parenting
49:53 - Inside the ten-week recovery program
52:47 - Selfish, selfless, or self-full
57:40 - Three questions for every morning
01:02:48 - Primed to fear the worst
01:03:58 - What it means to be an ultimate human
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First 90 secondsTaryn Marie Stejskal· Guest0:00
There's not a single person that has experienced burnout, exhaustion, or overwhelm that hasn't first lost the connection to themselves.
Gary Brecka· Host0:09
You've often said that you think that resilience is categorically misunderstood, and I think it has to do with a lot of how we handle and frame stress.
Taryn Marie Stejskal· Guest0:18
Resilience is not about being tougher. Resilience is very much about recovery, about modulating our output, about listening to what's happening internally inside of our bodies.
Gary Brecka· Host0:31
When you're going through some kind of traumatic event that you're trying to recover from, being isolated, not being vulnerable, not having a way to measure whether or not you're making any kind of success makes you less connected.
Taryn Marie Stejskal· Guest0:41
Resilience is very much about actually showing up and allowing people to have a window into what's happening in our lives.
Gary Brecka· Host0:49
What are some ways that people can get back in touch with who they are?
Taryn Marie Stejskal· Guest0:54
I think what we get to do each day is we get to ask ourselves three questions. The first question is...
Gary Brecka· Host1:00
[upbeat music] Ultimate Human. Hey, guys. Welcome back to the Ultimate Human podcast. I'm your host, human biologist Gary Brecka, where we go down the road of everything anti-aging, biohacking, longevity, and everything in between. And I am super, super excited for today's guest because right before the podcast started,