Unlearn Negative Thoughts & Behaviors Patterns | Dr. Alok Kanojia
3/2/20263 hr 9 min
Dr. Alok Kanojia, MD, MPH ("Dr. K"), is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist and expert in both Eastern and Western medicine to improve mental health. He explains tools for unlearning maladaptive thoughts and behavior patterns and for making behaviors that better mental and physical well-being more reflexive in work, relationships and daily life. We also discuss ways to resolve trauma, build stress tolerance, increase intrinsic motivation and even change temperament. We also discuss how social media, gaming and online dating shape our identity and perceptions and how to navigate them healthily. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Lingo: https://hellolingo.com/huberman Joovv: https://joovv.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) (00:03:09) Internet, Computer Games; Academic Pressure (00:07:11) Millennials & Self-Awareness, Hijacking Mental Health Language (00:13:24) Sponsors: Lingo & Joovv (00:16:06) Personality & Individual Road Maps, Misdiagnosis (00:22:02) Ambiguity, Flirting, Social Skills Decline, Uncertainty Tolerance (00:26:06) Dating in the Internet Age, Cognitive Bias (00:30:39) Healthy Distress Tolerance, Tool: How to Feel Your Feelings (00:39:58) Sponsor: AG1 (00:40:49) Expectations vs Internal Desire Roadmap, Western vs Eastern Theory of Mind, Ego (00:50:35) Sense Organs, Comparison & Proving Oneself, Internal Drive (00:59:22) Internet, Ego, "Teflon Buddha", Tool: Dealing with Criticism (01:10:36) Observing One's Mind, Meditation, Psychedelics (01:11:59) Sponsor: Function (01:13:46) Tool: Shunya "Void" Meditation & Resilience (01:24:02) External Reminders, Environment; Men & Emotional Regulation (01:30:04) Samskara, Yoga Nidra, Trauma & Learning, Shunya & Personal Compass (01:39:15) Yoga Nidra, Channeling Divinity, Genius (01:42:30) Sponsor: Eight Sleep (01:43:48) Breathwork Practices; Meditation Science, Self-Esteem & Belief Change (01:53:40) Liminal States, Meditation Types & Benefits; Western & Eastern Balance (02:01:50) Understanding Ego & Perception; AI & Narcissism, Psychosis (02:14:07) Tool: Healthy Social Media Use, When To Not Use, Normal Standards (02:18:38) Social Media & Looks Obsession, Purpose, Charisma (02:24:18) Young Men Falling Behind?, Male Support, Suicide; Men in Relationships (02:30:36) "Stuck" Young Men, Failure to Launch, Tool: Motivation & Understanding Oneself (02:39:03) Pornography, Erectile Dysfunction, Emotions, Addiction; Relationships (02:44:21) Men & Love, Looksmaxxing, Rejection, Partner Characteristics, Tool: Walk Before Dates (02:55:12) Exploring Practices, Meditation, Breathwork (03:01:39) Spirituality, Personal Exploration; Acknowledgements (03:06:12) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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First 90 secondsAlok Kanojia· Guest0:00
Everyone's focused on changing behavior. Everyone's focused on increasing willpower to overcome this tendency. And it's like, why not just change the tendency? That sounds so simple, but that's literally what we do in psychotherapy every day when we come in and someone has a narcissistic personality disorder. This is personality. This is who they are. And we can psychotherapize them to be someone else, for their natural thoughts to change, for the way that they see the world to change, for their behaviors to change on its own. It doesn't require... Willpower is necessary when you are trying to not be narcissistic. It is not necessary when you are no longer narcissistic. So we've done it in psychotherapy. We know that if your self-esteem changes, if your sense of being changes, treatment-refractory depression will change. Trauma, PTSD will change.
Andrew Huberman· Host0:51
Welcome to the Huberman Lab Podcast, where we discuss science and science-based tools for everyday life. [music] I'm Andrew Huberman, and I'm a professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine. My guest today is Dr. Alok Kanojia, also known as Dr. K. Dr. K is a psychiatrist and online mental health educator. He has a very unique background, having trained and earned his medical degree in the United States, but also having studied as a monk for seven years. Today, we discuss powerful tools for increasing your self-understanding and mental health and for rewiring your nervous system, specifically