You Can’t Make Someone Love You
4/20/202637 min
You can’t convince someone to love you—and the more you try, the more you lose yourself. In this episode, Jillian breaks down the painful truth about chasing someone who won’t choose you, and why holding on hurts more than letting go. She shares how to recognize when a relationship has run its course, how to stop overgiving in situationships, and what it really means to choose yourself. If you’ve been stuck hoping someone will change their mind, this is the shift you need to finally move forward. Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7 Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Threads: @jillianturecki YouTube: @jillian.turecki Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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First 90 secondsJillian Turecki· Host0:00
[gentle music] You cannot convince someone to love you. You can't convince someone to choose you. You could strategize all you want, you can beg, you could plead, you can tell them how much, how much of a mistake they're making if they leave the relationship. You can try to do all the right things so that they love you or so that they choose you, and none of it's going to work because it is truly one of the laws of the land. You can't convince someone to love you, and when you try, you are going to suffer immensely. In fact, the suffering that you're going to experience from having to convince someone to love you, choose you, or stay in a relationship with you is going to be disproportionately larger than experiencing the rejection of them not wanting you or wanting to be in a relationship with you. If we're just seeing someone or we're dating and someone doesn't choose us, that pain is more pain of the ego, and we have to see it as such. You know, you go out and you see someone, you think they're attractive, or you start talking to them and you find them attractive.