Why You’re Not Having the Sex You Want (& How to Fix It)
4/17/202632 min
In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns shaping your sex life. We explore everything from casual sex after breakups to how couples can reignite the spark, approach intimacy more intentionally, and create more ease, confidence, and fun in both sex and modern dating. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the LIVE 01:16 How to Call/Text Your Questions 01:49 Valentine’s Day & 21 Years of Podcasting 02:36 Why Couples Love Listening Together 04:33 Desire vs. Arousal Explained 05:21 Can You Coregasm at the Gym? 06:59 Blood Flow & Body Responses 07:53 Is This Normal? 09:02 What Some Women Enjoy Watching 10:54 Vulnerability in Men & Relationships 12:38 What is Compersion? 14:10 How to Approach Someone at the Gym 18:45 How to Bring Back the Spark in Relationships 21:25 Yes/No/Maybe List (Game-Changer Tool) 23:48 Real-Life Love Stories (Gym & Neighbors) 24:16 Keep Dating Your Partner 27:09 Slow Cooker vs. Frying Pan 28:52 Final Thoughts & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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