Why You Like Someone's Potential Instead of Who They Are
3/6/202639 min
Ever caught yourself saying "when it's good, it's so good"? In this first episode of the 4-part Hard Truth Series, Sabrina breaks down why you keep falling in love with who someone could be instead of who they actually are — and why potential is just a placeholder for the grief you're avoiding. She dives into the neuroscience of the "prospective brain," the impact bias that keeps you chasing a fantasy, and the 13-year longitudinal study that explains why you lower your standards for the wrong people but can't appreciate the ones who actually show up.
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First 90 secondsSabrina Zohar· Host0:00
You're not actually in love with them or even into this person. You're in love with who they could be or who you want to believe that they could be, the version that shows up sometimes, the glimpse that you got on date three, the person they are when things are going well, and you've built an entire relationship around a highlight reel, and now you're devastated every time they show you the full footage. Because at the end of the day, you're not dating people, you're dating potential, and potential isn't a partner. That's just you projecting how you would either handle this or the type of love you didn't get to receive as a child that you want them to step into. Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar, and I am your host. Hello, babes. Welcome back. This is the first episode of a four-part hard truth series, and we're starting here because to me, this is the pattern underneath so many other patterns. And if you've just said, "Oh my God, but when it's so good, it's so good," then baby, this episode is for you. I love a series. Don't forget to rate and review the show. Share it with a friend. Guys, that is actually the most important thing that you could do. Rating and reviewing is so helpful to me, but sharing it, letting other people know about the show, it means the world. As always, guys, if you need anything, everything will be in the link in show notes. You can work one-on-one, join a course, take the new What Type of Lover Are You? quiz and get some dating advice via email from me, or just be here. I can't tell you how much that means. All right, babies, without further ado, let's get right on into it, shall we? Hi, friends. Can I just say, and I wanna start off with I am so goddamn grateful