Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Person (And How to Finally Stop) | Faith Jenkins
5/22/20261 hr 16 min
Most people learn how to love the hard way. What if you didn't have to?
Faith Jenkins is a TV judge who has presided over more divorce cases than most people will ever witness in a lifetime. She has also been through roughly 10 serious relationships of her own, waited until 42 to marry, and did both pre-engagement and premarital counseling before saying yes. She knows this terrain from every angle.
What she learned will shift the way you think about every relationship you are in or hoping to find. The true measure of someone is not who they are when things are going great. It is who they are under pressure. Pain is inevitable, she says. Suffering is optional.
You cannot be cynical about love and expect to attract it at the same time. That single idea might change everything. Somewhere between the heartbreak and the closed doors is the version of you who is finally ready, and that is the person your partner actually gets to meet.
Faith married the right person six months after writing down that she would. She did not fight the breakup that made space for him. She radically accepted it, let it go, and stepped into the biggest open door of her life.
Faith’s book: Sis, Don't Settle: How to Stay Smart in Matters of the Heart
In this episode you will:
- Understand why emotional maturity, not chemistry, is what separates a healthy ending from a destructive one
- Learn Faith's practice of radical acceptance and how separating your feelings from the facts protects your peace through breakups
- Discover why doing pre-engagement counseling before getting engaged gives you real clarity on alignment before pressure sets in
- Recognize the hidden reasons so many people settle, from fear of loneliness to past experiences that erode self-worth
- Apply Faith's approach to staying open to love after betrayal, and how reframing your past protects your future partner from paying for it
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Faith Jenkins, Sis Don't Settle, emotional maturity, radical acceptance, red flags in relationships, divorce and marriage lessons, love languages, pre-engagement counseling, heartbreak recovery, choosing love consciously
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