Why You Don’t Believe in Yourself (And How to Fix It) | Dr. Shadé Zahrai

Shadé Zahrai· Guest0:00

Those who are the highest performers, they've understood that self-image, this concept of who we are, comes down actually to four key drivers. The first one is the obvious one that we associate with self-doubt. It's the belief that I am not enough, which comes down to what we call the attribute of acceptance, which is a learnable, trainable quality. The personality trait underscoring that is self-esteem. So people who are able to achieve amazing things believe that they are inherently worthy. They're not seeking the validation of other people. They don't take feedback personally, because they fundamentally accept that feedback is designed to make me better. They don't fear failure, because they're not worried about what the failure is gonna mean about them. They separate themselves from that. The second one is the second element that we associate with self-doubt, which is to do with our belief about our capacity and capability. Can I do this thing? Do I have the skills or the ability to learn how to do that? Third one is a very interesting one. Where do you place control in your life? Do you believe that you have some degree of control over the outcomes in your life, or do you feel like it's completely out of your hand? Now, the very fourth one is the psychological trait of emotional stability. We call it the trainable attribute of adaptability. So it's your ability to understand your emotions, understand the emotions of other people, and then navigate between the two, because understanding your emotional state at any moment gives you incredible insight.

Gabrielle Lyon· Host1:25

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