Why Desire Is Judged Differently For Men And Women... | Nadege | DSH #2005
6/7/202652 min
What if most people misunderstand desire, connection, and communication in relationships? In this episode of Digital Social Hour, sex scholar Inna Dash breaks down how shame, culture, and conditioning shape the way people think about intimacy, attraction, and long-term relationships. The conversation explores why many couples struggle to talk openly about their needs, how mismatched desire can create distance, and why honest communication is often the missing piece in modern relationships. Inna also discusses dating culture, relationship expectations, the history of marriage, gender dynamics, masculine and feminine energy, astrology, body awareness, and how different flirt styles can reveal the way...
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First 90 secondsNadege· Guest0:00
All humans do want physicality, but social conditioning makes us navigate shame differently. So men, to experience sex without shame is less emotionally attached.
Sean Kelly· Host0:10
Mm.
Nadege· Guest0:10
And then with women, it's a different socialization. But women are just as horny, but in a world where women are taught that if you're sexual, you're a slut- Right ... and if you're a slut, you're of lower value, women will learn to satiate sexual needs through ...
Sean Kelly· Host0:22
Okay, guys. Sex scholar on the show today, which is a first. Rare these days to have a first on the show 2,000 episodes in. But Nadege, thanks for coming on today.
Nadege· Guest0:38
Oh, I'm so happy to be here.
Sean Kelly· Host0:39
Yeah, st- Thanks for having me ... starting off with a bang.
Nadege· Guest0:40
Hey.
Sean Kelly· Host0:41
Right?
Nadege· Guest0:41
That's what we try to do.
Sean Kelly· Host0:42
Yeah. Morning sex, huh?
Nadege· Guest0:44
Yeah.
Sean Kelly· Host0:44
That's your favorite.
Nadege· Guest0:45
I love morning se- Actually, afternoon sex is my favorite- Okay ... 'cause I'm fed and I've already worked out, so I'm regulated.
Sean Kelly· Host0:51
Yeah.
Nadege· Guest0:51
And I realized this 'cause I've been dating someone new, and we always have sex [laughs] in the afternoon.
Sean Kelly· Host0:56
Okay.
Nadege· Guest0:56
Yeah.
Sean Kelly· Host0:56
You're the second ... 'Cause Sex With Emily told me this too.
Nadege· Guest0:59
Yeah. Oh, she- She likes afternoon ... I love her. Yeah, totally.
Sean Kelly· Host1:01
Yeah, I gotta get, I gotta get more into that. I'm not into that.
Nadege· Guest1:04
Yeah, your morning sex.
Sean Kelly· Host1:05
I'm working all day in the afternoon. I'm filming.
Nadege· Guest1:07
Oh, yeah. So morning sex is better for you, or- I do night. Really?
Sean Kelly· Host1:11
Yeah.
Nadege· Guest1:11
You're not tired by the end of the day, or you're, like, energized?
Sean Kelly· Host1:14
Sometimes I am.
Nadege· Guest1:15
Yeah.
Sean Kelly· Host1:15
But I feel like night is what most people do, right? If I had to guess.
Nadege· Guest1:18
I, I, I mean, no.
Sean Kelly· Host1:20
Really?
Nadege· Guest1:21
But it's the assumption- Okay ... that that's when we should be intimate. I actually work with a lot of couples where one of the first things we do is it's like, "What's your sex routine? When are you having sex?"