who’s in the wrong? advice session

Emma Chamberlain· Host0:00

Welcome back to Advice Session, a series here on Anything Goes where you send in your current dilemmas or anything you want advice on and then I give you my unprofessional advice, and today's topic is friendship, but more specifically situations in friendship where it's unclear if you're in the wrong. Now, I don't love pointing fingers in arguments. Even when someone deserves to have a finger pointed at them, I don't love that style of communication. I don't love that style of argument because I find that it's not optimal for growth. I feel like when everyone involved in a conversation, a confrontation approaches it in a humane, kind, I guess not kind but like mature way, I think it creates an environment where everyone's guards are down so that growth can happen. When people start pointing fingers, people start locking up and their walls come up. So I don't love pointing fingers. However, when there is some sort of challenge in a friendship, I do think it can be helpful to reflect inwardly and figure out what role you play in the challenge, in the conflict. I think pointing the finger inward can be incredibly helpful and I was shocked at how many people were struggling with a similar dilemma