There’s a Big Difference Between “They Don’t Care” and “They’re Trying”
5/25/20269 min
There’s a huge difference between the spouse who simply doesn’t care…
and the one who may get things wrong—but genuinely means well and is trying their best.
And if we treat those two like they’re the same…
we create pain where there only needed to be patience, perspective, and grace.
Not every missed expectation is intentional.
Not every mistake means they don’t care.
Sometimes your partner is:
learning in real time
undoing what they were never taught
trying to love you well with tools they never saw modeled and giving you their sincere effort, even if it’s imperfect.
Because there’s a big difference between someone unwilling…
and someone growing.
And relationships get healthier when couples stop demanding perfection…
and start giving each other room to learn.
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First 90 secondsShalia Vinney· Host0:00
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