The Small Rule That Will Change Your Life | Matt Monday
6/8/202619 min
Most people spend years trying to change their lives by making dramatic, big moves. Yet even after those big moves, they find themselves facing the same frustrations, the same fears, and the same emotional patterns they thought they had left behind.
Why does this happen?
Well, there's something we all do that quietly keeps us trapped in the same experience of life, even when everything around us changes.
Over the last 18 years of coaching, I've become skeptical of any advice that promises instant transformation. Real change is rarely dramatic and overnight. In fact, it's often so subtle that most people overlook it entirely. I call this subtle change "The 5% Rule."
It reveals how a surprisingly small adjustment can completely alter the direction of your future. In this week's episode I breakdown what the 5% Rule is, how to use it, and how it can change the trajectory of your life even if your day-to-day life seemingly looks the same.
This one rule may change the way you look at every challenge you're facing right now.
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First 90 secondsMatthew Hussey· Host0:00
[gentle music] There's a famous saying we've all heard, wherever you go, there you are, and here I am in a storage cupboard.
David· Host0:08
[footsteps] [door creaking] What are you doing in there?
Matthew Hussey· Host0:11
I'm filming a YouTube video.
David· Host0:13
In a storage cupboard? Why?
Matthew Hussey· Host0:16
It's unorthodox.
David· Host0:18
Okay. Well, we had a whole box of Uncrustables. Have you seen them?
Matthew Hussey· Host0:23
No, no. I don't think... I haven't seen them. Sorry, is there something I can do for you? 'Cause I'm trying to... [door creaking] I, I... Look, you can move to a new country, change your friendship circle, date a new person, get a new job, hide away in a storage cupboard, but who you are didn't change. So the moment you get triggered again in the old way, you're back to where you started, feeling out of control of your mind and your emotions, and stuck with the one person you can never get away from, yourself. [packaging crinkling] Mm. These are my Uncrustables. Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, you are stuck with you? This can make us feel hopeless, like wishing that one day life is gonna be different for us is futile, that we will always struggle to feel like we are in the driver's seat in our dating lives because we are always just a few hours away from feeling uncertain and anxious