The Sex Life Nobody Warned You About: What a Top Sexual Medicine Expert Wants You To Know
2/24/202658 min
Most women go through decades of marriage, menopause and midlife without ever having an honest conversation with a doctor about their sex life. Not because they don't want one — but because most physicians were never trained to have it. This week on unPaused, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with Dr. James Simon, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at George Washington University, board-certified OB-GYN, reproductive endocrinologist, and certified sexual counselor with more than 800 published papers in menopause and sexual medicine. Dr. Simon is a past president of the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH) an...
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First 90 secondsJames Simon· Guest0:00
So no one really wants to have pain.
Mary Claire Haver· Host0:02
No.
James Simon· Guest0:02
It's a rare person that wants to have pain. I usually say, "Mary Clare, when was the last time you purposefully put your hand on a hot stove?" [laughs] Well, it happened when you were three or four years old, but it was by accident, and you never did it again.
Mary Claire Haver· Host0:14
Mm-hmm.
James Simon· Guest0:15
A woman who doesn't wanna have sex is because she's having pain, that's someone that is in touch with her body and she just needs her pain fixed.
Mary Claire Haver· Host0:23
Yeah.
James Simon· Guest0:24
It doesn't mean that she can't have sex, it just means she can't have painful aspects of sex. By and large, there are lots of things that she and her partner can do that don't include having pain, but they gotta get back to those days when they were first dating and remember all the fun that they had before they were taking their clothes off and having intercourse.
Mary Claire Haver· Host0:42
[upbeat music] The views and opinions expressed on Unpaused are those of the talent and the guests alone, and are provided for informational and entertainment purposes only. No part of this podcast or any related materials are intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. [upbeat music] Today on Unpaused, I am lucky enough to have as my guest, one of the most experienced menopause clinicians in the world. Dr. James Simon has been practicing menopause medicine longer than most physicians have been practicing anything.