The Sex Conversations You're Too Afraid to Have
4/14/202648 min
I've said it a thousand times and I'll say it again, the number one thing standing between you and the sex life you actually want is probably one conversation you haven't had yet. Not a new position. Not a new toy. A conversation. And I know that sounds simple, but if it were easy, you wouldn't be talking yourself out of it every single time. Today, I'm taking live listener calls on some of the most awkward, most avoided, most necessary conversations in sex and relationships, and giving you the exact words to have them. In this episode, you'll learn: • What to do when everything in your relationship is great except the sex — and how to bring it up without making your partner feel like the last nine months were a waste • How to give feedback about a smell, a skill, or a habit that's getting in the way of your pleasure — without shame, without cruelty, and without killing the mood • Why if you're freezing up every time you want to initiate, the problem probably isn't your partner's response — it's the story you're telling yourself before you even open your mouth This episode is sponsored by... Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:44 - Caller #1: Sex Is Lackluster After 9 Months — Is It a Dealbreaker? 11:27 - How to Tell Someone They're Bad at Hand Jobs 13:06 - Caller #2: She's Monogamous, He Wants Non-Monogamy 18:55 - Dr. Emily on Ethical Non-Monogamy & Why Timing Matters 19:58 - Caller #3: Should He Tell His Culinary School Crush He Has Feelings? 27:25 - Caller #4: Hemorrhoid Surgery, Skin Tags & Talking About It With Partners 33:39 - Anonymous Question: She Smells — How Do You Bring It Up? 36:06 - Caller #5: She Wants Sex But Freezes Up Before Initiating 42:03 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: If No One Initiates, There's Zero Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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First 90 secondsEmily Morse· Host0:00
[upbeat music] I would let him know that, and then just say, "And I want you to know I, I get this is uncomfortable, but I'd love to go forward in this relationship, and it's important for me to continue to have these conversations around sex." You take it off of him not performing and doing something to the both of you, and you say, "I have a growth mindset around sex. I hope you do, too."
Jessica0:19
Ooh, I love that.
Emily Morse· Host0:21
[upbeat music] You're listening to Sex With Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Here's a secret. The number one obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It's not a cliche, it's a skill. And on today's Ask Emily Show, we're talking our way to better sex. So let's bravely face the awkwardness with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos. Clamming up during sex talks? I've got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better hand jobs or addressing a funky smell? We get into it. Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them and whether to stay in a relationship if the sex is just okay. Hey, communication is a lubrication. But you know what? It's also liberating. And by the end of this episode, you'll be feeling a lot more free. Please rate and review Sex With Emily wherever you listen to the show. It just helps get the show