The Holderness Family Gets Real About Perimenopause
4/28/20261 hr 4 min
In this episode of unPAUSED, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with Kim and Penn Holderness, the husband and wife content creators behind the widely popular Holderness Family, bestselling authors, and winners of The Amazing Race Season 33. Together they built an audience of millions by finding the humor in real life, and in this conversation they turn that same lens on perimenopause, ADHD, marriage, and the particular chaos of midlife. Kim opens up about the perimenopausal symptoms that arrived before she had any name for them: the anxiety that made everything feel like being chased by a bear, the panic attacks triggered by nothing she could identify, and the growing sense that something was fundamentally wrong with her. She describes walking out of her doctor's office with no treatment after being told her symptoms were normal, the financial reality of having to seek out a functional medicine doctor to finally get the estrogen and progesterone support she needed, and the combination of hormonal and psychiatric care that eventually helped her feel like herself again. She also speaks with real honesty about her postpartum anxiety, perimenopause and depression, and her OCD diagnosis, and how all of it left her desperate for a voice that would simply say: this is hard. Guest links: The Holderness Family The Holderness Family (Instagram) The Holderness Family - Music (YouTube) The Holderness Family - Comedy (YouTube) The Holderness Family (Facebook) The Holderness Family (Substack) The Holderness Family (TikTok) Laugh Lines with Kim & Penn Holderness (Apple Podcasts) PC’s Playbook Podcast (YouTube) Books: “ADHD Is Awesome,” by Penn and Kim Holderness “Everybody Fights,” by Penn and Kim Holderness To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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First 90 secondsSpeaker 00:00
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Mary Claire Haver· Host0:09
He is the world's most sensitive, understanding husband ever. He's like, "Don't need to explain it. We're good. Just go lay down or go for a walk, whatever you need to do." So everything, like, felt like I was being chased by a bear, and I really thought something was wrong with me. So that started before any of the physical stuff started.
Speaker 00:28
Yeah.
Mary Claire Haver· Host0:29
And I was relieved to hear that, like, oh, that, that happens in perimenopause. I just thought I was going crazy.
Speaker 00:36
So when did you hear that, though? Like, when did someone say, "Hey, this might-" You told me- Yeah ...
Mary Claire Haver· Host0:41
on the internet, which is, like, gonna make me cry. Yeah, I mean, even the postpartum depression stuff, like, there, there weren't women talking about it. They were talking about, like, how wonderful it was to have, like, a newborn baby, and I was like, "I can't even walk down the stairs without, like, fear of tripping," and it was, it was so hard. And then perimenopause hit, and I just thought I was going crazy. I f- I'm like, "Penn, I'm so sorry you married me." [upbeat music] The views and opinions expressed on Unpaused are those of the talent and guests alone, and are provided for informational and entertainment purposes only. No part of this podcast or any related materials are intended to be a substitute for professional medical