the detachment rabbit hole

Emma Chamberlain· Host0:00

Let's start this off with a little bit of a story, okay? It's not a good story, but it's a necessary story for this episode. So about a month ago, maybe a little over a month ago, I was doing research for a podcast episode about modern toxic dating advice. The concept was I gather modern toxic dating advice and then give my thoughts on it here on this very podcast, Anything Goes with Emma Chamberlain, the podcast that you're listening to right now. So I was on the internet doing a deep dive. I was reading articles about modern dating advice. I was going on TikTok, looking up dating advice. And most importantly for the sake of this story, I was on YouTube looking up modern dating advice. And a buzzword that kept coming up in my search was detachment. And at first I kind of ignored it f- because I was like, "That's, like, obviously gonna be toxic," you know? Like, I'll go back to that later because that immediately to me sounds toxic, so I guess in my research or whatever, I just kind of wrote it off. I was like, "Oh, I, I'll put a pin in that for now." I'm trying to find stuff that is maybe less obvious. Do you know what I mean? Because based on my understanding of the word detached, detachment, the concept of being detached in love to me out the gate sounded like a bad idea, sounded toxic, okay? Just based on my vague knowledge of what that word means. So I put a pin in it, continued my research, found a bunch of modern toxic