The Decision That Was Finally Yours
7/1/202625 min
They're calling it a trend like you woke up this morning, scrolled on TikTok for 45 seconds, and decided to throw your mother away. Like estrangement is a hashtag. Like cutting off a person who hurt you is the emotional equivalent to buying a Stanley cup because everyone else has one. But there's a different story underneath the headlines. In this episode, Dorcy breaks down the six invisible dynamics that kept you stuck—the moving goalpost, the identified patient, conditional belonging, the smear campaign, engulfment and abandonment, and the weaponized memory. She reframes what you actually did: this isn't abandonment, revenge, or a tantrum. It's a boundary so loud it required distance to be heard. And she walks you through what you're actually reclaiming—your nervous system, your Sundays, your right to define family by safety, not genetics. Plus: why guilt isn't evidence of wrongdoing, and why you don't owe anyone the story of why.
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They're calling it a trend like you woke up this morning, scrolled on TikTok for 45 seconds and decided to throw your mother away. Like estrangement is a hashtag. Like cutting off a person who hurt you is the emotional equivalent to buying a Stanley Cup because everyone else has one. And I want to tell you what actually happened in that quiet moment that you made the call. I'm Dorsey Pruder, and this is What Would Dorsey Do? In this episode, it is called the decision that was finally yours. Let's start where the noise is the loudest. You open up any magazine, any morning show in the last two years and you'll find the same recycled headlines. You didn't follow a trend and you didn't copy a creator. You didn't read one think piece and pulled the trigger. You spent years trying every other door in the house and sometimes even decades. And you tried therapy and you tried... the long letters, and you tried the holidays where you swallowed glass and smiled for the photos. And you