The Conversation Every Couple Needs During Hard Seasons ft. Claire Holt
6/19/202655 min
I sat down with Claire Holt to talk about something we all face sooner or later: what happens when life changes and you don't quite recognize yourself anymore. We talked about motherhood, marriage, guilt, career changes, and the pressure we put on ourselves to have all the answers right now. Claire shared what helped her navigate resentment, uncertainty, and the fear of losing her identity—and what she's learned about giving yourself grace along the way. If you're in a season of change, trying to support a partner through one, or wrestling with some hard questions of your own, I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone and a little more equipped to handle the conversations that matter most.
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First 90 secondsJefferson Fisher· Host0:00
Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher Podcast. Today, my guest is Claire Holt. You may know her from the Australia series H2O: Just Add Water, The Vampire Diaries, Pretty Little Liars, Mean Girls 2, The Originals, you name it. And what we get to talk about, why I was so excited to talk to Claire, is that we go deep on the guilt cycle that moms and parents feel between career, being fulfilled, being full-time parent, and we talk about how to know what season of life you're in, and how to give yourself just a little bit more grace. We also talk about phones, the guilt that we feel when we're on phones in front of our kids, and what role should phones play, and some suggestions on how to handle it a little better. And we talk about how to live in the discomfort when you're trying to build and grow and improve yourself. Hope you enjoy. Hi. So good to see you.
Claire Holt· Guest0:52
Hi. So good to see you too.
Jefferson Fisher· Host0:53
Great to meet you. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Claire Holt· Guest0:54
Likewise. I'm a huge fan.
Jefferson Fisher· Host0:56
Thank you. Same. I am- Thanks ... I'm really, really honored to just kinda sit down with you for, uh, a little bit. I know that you have a, just a huge history of work in acting, from H2O: Just Add Water, the Austral- Australia series, from Pretty Little Liars, to Mean Girls 2, to Vampire Diaries, to Originals.
Claire Holt· Guest1:18
Oh, my God. Look at you.
Jefferson Fisher· Host1:18
All these things.
Claire Holt· Guest1:19
Guys. Sweet.
Jefferson Fisher· Host1:19
[laughs] And I'm, I'm... But I saw, one of the reasons why I wanted to talk to you, Claire, is because you made a big decision here recently, and that was