Stop Letting People Use Their Personality as an Excuse
5/19/202649 min
In this call-in episode, I’m answering your real questions about difficult people, passive-aggressive comments, toxic relationships, setting boundaries, and what to say when someone disrespects you. We talk about how to stay calm without staying silent, how to stop overexplaining yourself, and why the right question can completely change a conversation. If you’ve ever struggled with someone who drains your peace, pushes your boundaries, or makes communication feel impossible, this episode is for you. Leave me a voicemail to be featured on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/ask-jefferson Join me on Supercast for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and AMAs: https://jefferson.supercast.com/ Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 20% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. LMNT. Head to https://drinkLMNT.com/jefferson to try risk free. Dose. Save 35% on your first month of subscription by going to dosedaily.co/JEFFERSON or entering JEFFERSON at checkout. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Order my book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTok Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Jefferson Fisher· Host0:29
Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher Podcast. Today, I have the absolute privilege of listening to some more voicemails, and I get to answer them, and we're gonna hit it right now.
Speaker 50:38
I have a daughter-in-law, she's a stepdaughter-in-law, who is very, I think, rude, but she's a lawyer, and she says, "I like to be very direct." And then she hits you with a zinger and tells you how awful you are and blah, blah, blah, and tells you off. It's a pattern she's had. She's done some really bad ones. Once she did a three-day letter to tell me off. What's behind all this with her, and how do I counter that?
Jefferson Fisher· Host0:59
So there's this thing that some people have that they... This is what it sounds like. "This is just my personality. This is just how I am. I'm, I'm just very direct." And they use that as some type of excuse to say not nice things, to things that are rude, things that are, aren't kind, and yet they feel like they have some shroud of immunity because they go, "That, that's just my personality."