People Can Only Meet You Where They Are
7/13/202648 min
Why do we spend so much time trying to explain someone else's behavior? In this episode, Jillian shares the mindset shift that can instantly change the way you experience dating and relationships: people can only meet you where they are mentally and emotionally. She explores why rejection isn't always personal, why trying to rescue someone's potential only leads to heartbreak, and how accepting people as they are—not as you hope they'll become—is one of the greatest acts of self-respect.
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First 90 secondsJillian Turecki· Host0:00
[gentle music] I'm about to share something with you that will completely change your relationships and just change your life, and that is this: people can only meet you where they are mentally and emotionally, not where you want them to be, not where you think they should be, but where they actually are. And once you really understand that, all your relationships, your life will literally change, and you will stop taking things so personally. I'm gonna read a question that was submitted to me, and my answer to it, that is going to beautifully illustrate this point. Someone wrote in and said that they started dating someone. She said he was lovely, very persistent, but, but one thing was wrong. He had a dependency on drugs and alcohol. Even though he had that dependency, he did ask her to be his girlfriend, and a week later, he was in rehab. She writes, "Which is great for him, but now he