One true love or many: Monogamy vs. open relationships
4/27/202624 min
Is monogamy a tired social contract — or a deeply meaningful way to build a life with someone you love? Is opening up your relationship an act of honesty and freedom, or just another complicated commitment in an already overbooked life?
Roll up, Ladies, as monogamy and Ethical non-monogamy go head-to-head. Arguing in favour of fidelity is comedian and Deadloch actor, Nikki Britton. Meanwhile, sex therapist, Aleks Trkulja goes in to bat for ENM.
Will one relationship style prevail?
This episode will answer questions like:
- What is Ethical non-monogamy?
- Should I open my relationship?
- Was Lindy West in an open marriage?
- Are there rules in an Non-Monogamous relationship?
- How can I date more than one person?
- Is monogamy the same as marriage?
- Is ENM the same as Polyamory?
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Is everyone having better sex than me?
The case against hookup sex with Hannah Ferguson — ABC listen
What to read next:
Why these women have never had a partner — ABC News
The women staying single by choice in a world of relentless dating pressure
What happens to your sex life during perimenopause?
This episode contains references to dating, monogamy, non-monogamy, heterosexuality, ethical non-monogamy, ENM, polyamory, sex, relationships, orgasms, partnerships, tinder, bumble, Hinge, dating apps, ghosting,
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First 90 secondsNikki Britton· Guest0:00
[whimsical music] Why do humans hold on to stuff? Oddments we don't use, and yet can't quite throw out. It's not just you and me. Australia's oldest library is crammed with stuff that isn't books. Terrible paintings, old menus, human hair. Is this history or hoarding? I'm Annabel Crabb. Come and have a rummage through the story of us, told by our stuff. Search for the History or Hoarding podcast on ABC Listen or wherever you get your podcasts.
Yumi Stynes· Host0:28
[upbeat music] ABC Listen. Podcasts, radio, news, music, and more. [whimsical music] Let the horny people fuck.
Nikki Britton· Guest0:41
Now I crave someone who agrees that our sole romantic partnership is with each other.
Yumi Stynes· Host0:47
Non-monogamy is not for the weak.
Nikki Britton· Guest0:51
Having a monogamous relationship, to me, does feel like you are creating something with a trusted co-creator.
Yumi Stynes· Host0:59
[dramatic music] A clash of two lifestyles is before us. A battle of how to love, a duel, a contest, a shoot-out. Monogamy and non-monogamy. Which is the better choice for health, happiness, and orgasms? Yep, it's time to debate relationship styles. [upbeat music] Non-monogamy has been kinda trendy in recent years. Data from Relationships