Motivations for Sex | Szn. 4 Ep. 9
1/18/202628 min
We all assume we know why people have sex, pleasure, love, connection. But when you actually ask people, the answers are far more nuanced and, at times, surprising.
Some people have sex to feel close. Others to avoid conflict, boost their ego, satisfy curiosity, reclaim power, or even get revenge. In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy pulls back the covers on the real motivations behind why humans have sex and why understanding your personal “why” can fundamentally change how you experience intimacy.
This conversation isn’t just about sex, it’s about what drives us, shapes o...
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First 90 secondsJen Kennedy· Host0:00
[upbeat music] Hi, it's Dr. Jen Kennedy. I'm a sexologist and couples therapist. The Pleasure Project is about sex and relationships. That includes desire, dysfunction, dissatisfaction, exploration, toys, and trends. Sometimes I'll enlist other experts, sometimes it'll just be me. We'll increase your insight and enhance your pleasure, so tune in. [upbeat music] We all think we know why people have sex: pleasure, love, connection. But when you actually ask people, the answers are a lot more surprising and way more complicated. Some people do it to feel close, some to avoid conflict, some for the thrill, the ego boost, the curiosity, or yes, even revenge. In this episode, we're pulling back the covers on the real reasons humans get it on, and how understanding your why can completely shift the way you experience intimacy. This isn't just about sex. It's about what drives us. Listen now and get ready to see your motivations a little more clearly. [upbeat music] So let's start with one of my favorite pieces of research, because it's part science, part sociology, and part did someone really say that? Back in 2007, two researchers, Meston and Buss, set out to answer a deceptively simple question, which is why do people have sex? Now, you might be thinking, pleasure, duh. But they were satisfied