Leslie John (on the power of oversharing)
6/17/20261 hr 43 min
Leslie John (Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing) is a behavioral scientist, Harvard Business School professor, and expert on privacy, self-disclosure, and decision-making. Leslie joins Armchair Expert to discuss growing up in Waterloo, Canada, training professionally in ballet as a child, and how her family’s irrational penny-pinching sparked her fascination with human behavior. Leslie and Dax talk about why people are more open to revealing their dark secrets on a sketchy-looking website over a more official looking one, how one mortifying overshare helped her find lifelong mentors, and what parasocial relationships reveal about modern intimacy. Leslie explains why secrets take up cognitive space, how vulnerability creates trust through social risk, and why we may be better off sharing a little more than we think we should.
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First 90 secondsDax Shepard· Host0:00
Welcome, welcome, welcome to Armchair Expert, Experts on Expert. I'm Dan Shepherd. I'm joined by Monica Mouse. Today we have Leslie John on. She is a behavioral scientist and a professor at Harvard Business School. And we get to get into parasocial relationships on this one.
Monica Padman· Host0:16
Juicy.
Dax Shepard· Host0:17
She has a great book out called Revealing the Underrated Power of Oversharing, and this is a, a, an incredibly interesting conversation about parasocial relationships.
Monica Padman· Host0:27
Parasocial relationships. We get into secrets, like the science of secrets. There's a lot of fun stuff in here.
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