Is He Avoiding Sex On Purpose? ft Dr. Naomi
3/6/202647 min
Jared is joined by Dr. Naomi Bernstein of the Oversharing podcast to unpack dating after divorce, performance anxiety, and whether taking intimacy slow signals emotional baggage. They break down an email from a 34-year-old woman dating a gentle, recently divorced man who says something “deeper than biology” is blocking intimacy. Then they debate if a flight attendant was right to tell a 30-year-old guy he’s “too nice for casual dating.” Plus: performance anxiety, people pleasers, alpha vs beta energy, and why sexual chemistry doesn’t always match long-term potential. Jared and Dr. Naomi get deep and at one point, when Jared asks Dr. Naomi to give him real advice about his own dating life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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First 90 secondsJared Freid· Host0:00
[upbeat music] Hello, and welcome to the U Up podcast. I'm Jared Freid, and I am joined by today's very special co-host, Dr. Naomi Bernstein. How are you? Good to see you.
Naomi Bernstein· Guest0:13
Awesome to be here. Takes a village to cover a maternity leave, so.
Jared Freid· Host0:18
It really does. It is, um, it is a truly unbelievable thing. The, the way you go, "Jordanne is on maternity leave," and people are like, "How can I help? What can I do?"
Naomi Bernstein· Guest0:28
Yeah.
Jared Freid· Host0:28
You hear so much negative... Don't you think? Like, we hear the noises, "Maternity leave isn't long enough, I should get it for seven years." [laughs] "And other countries do it this way," and... But really, it is a beautiful thing when you're kind of involved with the maternity. Like, I'm involved in the least way you could be involved. But just hearing how people have been so amazing.
Naomi Bernstein· Guest0:47
No, I totally agree. It, it's like, you know, uh, when they say, "Look for the helpers."
Jared Freid· Host0:52
Right.
Naomi Bernstein· Guest0:52
You know? You can look for all the, you know, disappointing people and policy, but you can also look for the helpers, which is me and you.
Jared Freid· Host0:59
Yes. We are help- I've never been a helper before. This is new for me.
Naomi Bernstein· Guest1:02
Well, you can show up at her house- I, I'm usually the one running away scared ... at around 9:00 when she's ready to go to bed. That's another way to help. [laughs] And, uh, take a baby.
Jared Freid· Host1:10
Wh- what's that? You show up at 9:00?
Naomi Bernstein· Guest1:13
At Jordanne's house.
Jared Freid· Host1:15
Who... Wait, I, I'm sorry, I got lost for a second. I was laughing. My bad.
Naomi Bernstein· Guest1:18
You can be a helper by- I can be a he- ... going to Jordanne's house- There's no way I'm ever gonna do that ... at 9:00- [laughs] ... and snuggling a baby.
Jared Freid· Host1:27
I wouldn't... I saw Mike is in the