I wish you knew…how hard it is to break the toxic relationship cycle
4/23/20261 hr 4 min
Having a healthy romantic relationship is easier said than done. From mixed signals to playing games, ghosting to co-dependence, many of us feel lost at sea when it comes to dating and relationships. Especially for those of us who were raised with toxic relationship models, it can be difficult to identify and trust the signs of a healthy partnership.
In this episode, host and licensed mental health counselor Sreela Roy-Greene sits down with writer and musicians Holly Solem and Carré Kwong Callaway to navigate the tricky world of romantic relationships. Throughout their 20s, both friends found themselves in toxic relationships, before they each realized what was motivating their choices. Together with Sreela, they discuss how to recognize toxic cycles, break old behaviors, and the importance of learning to love yourself.
Next, Sreela is joined by licensed therapist David Yadush from BetterHelp. Together, they explore the difference between healthy vs. familiar behaviors, taking time to discover your own preferences, and learning to identify red—and green!—flags in relationships.
If you've ever felt like you were the problem and just can’t seem to find your person, this episode is for you.
If you or someone you love is struggling with drug use, addiction, or abuse, you can find resources at https://www.betterhelp.com/gethelpnow/
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First 90 secondsHolly Solem· Guest0:00
[gentle music] It's not just doing things differently and knowing you need to do things differently, but also getting yourself to want to do things differently.
Sreela Roy-Greene· Host0:08
Mm.
Holly Solem· Guest0:08
Because I think your nervous system, it's just what's familiar.
Sreela Roy-Greene· Host0:12
Yeah.
Holly Solem· Guest0:13
And gravitating towards that kind of chaos and intensity, it's really intoxicating.
Speaker 20:19
[keyboard clicking] Hey, can I talk to you about something? I wish you knew... I wish you knew how lonely menopause felt.
Carré Kwong Callaway· Guest0:31
I wish you knew why it's so hard for men to share their feelings.
Speaker 20:36
I wish you knew what it was like growing up in a low-income family. I wish you knew how hard it was not having a college degree. I wish you knew what it's like to be me.
Sreela Roy-Greene· Host0:45
Welcome back to Mind If We Talk, where you get to be a fly on the wall for mini therapy sessions and learn some mental health tips in the process. I'm Sri Laroy Green, a licensed mental health counselor with over 19 years of experience and your host for season two. In this season, we're bringing people together who see the world a little differently and who want to understand one another better. In each episode, I sit down with two people who've agreed to have a real, vulnerable conversation. Together, we explore the thorny emotions and topics they may have turned away from in the past. After each mini therapy session, I'll sit down with an expert to break down what we heard and how you might apply it to your own life.