I Don’t Speak to My Family with Shaheen Hashmat
4/17/202652 min
Shaheen Hashmat left her family home aged 12 feeling she needed to escape, fearing a forced marriage. Initially she kept in touch, until deciding to become totally estranged in her twenties.
By cutting contact, she lost the identity and sense of belonging that comes with family. She describes it as the worst kind of break up, one that left her questioning everything. Who am I without them? How do I trust my own decisions? And how do you rebuild when the people who shaped your life are no longer there?
Over time, she began to build a life. Piece by piece, she carved out her own identity, focusing on defining her values, her relationships and the life she wanted to lead, on her own terms.
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[instrumental music] Hello, I'm Emma Barnett, and I am always ready to talk. [instrumental music] How can you not talk to the people who brought you into the world? It's an unimaginable reality and horror to most of us. It was brought home recently via an unexpected route,