How to Stop Delaying Happiness While Pursuing Big Goals with Jess Ekstrom
4/21/202655 min
What if “making it” doesn’t solve your problems, it just gives you new ones? In this episode, I sit down with Jess Ekstrom, the founder of Headbands of Hope and Mic Drop Workshop, to break down the belief that once you “make it,” everything will finally feel easier, happier, and complete. We talk about the pressure of constantly chasing the next goal, the illusion that success will solve your problems, and how to stop tying your happiness to future outcomes. Jess also shares the idea of choosing problems you actually want to solve, defining your own success fingerprint, and shifting from achievement-based thinking to mission-driven living. Get ready to rethink what success means and start creating a life that feels good now, not “someday.” In This Episode You Will Learn How to STOP chasing outcomes that promise a problem-free life. The PURPOSE TEST to evaluate if your goals are aligned with you. How to define your SUCCESS FINGERPRINT based on your values. How to shift from singular goals to a MISSION that keeps you motivated. Why attaching your happiness to a FINISH LINE keeps you stuck in a cycle of delay. How to ZOOM OUT and evaluate if your daily actions align with your life. Check Out Our Sponsors: Quince - Refresh your spring wardrobe with Quince. Go to quince.com/confidence for free shipping and 365-day returns. NerdWallet - Don’t risk your business on unreliable lenders. Go to nerdwallet.com/confidence to find the funding you deserve. Whatnot - Visit whatnot.com/sell to start selling. Upwork - Visit upwork.com right now and post your job for free. Resources + Links Pre-Order Jess Ekstrom’s new book Making It Without Losing It and get the FREE audiobook + BONUSES: https://jessekstrom.com/makingit/ Check out Headbands of Hope and support their mission: headbandsofhope.com Learn how to become a paid speaker with Mic Drop Workshop: micdropworkshop.com Call my digital clone at 201-897-2553! Visit heathermonahan.com Sign up for my mailing list: heathermonahan.com/mailing-list/ Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Follow Heather on Instagram & LinkedIn Jess Instagram & LinkedIn
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First 90 secondsJess Ekstrom· Guest0:00
Don't try to achieve things to have zero problems. Do things that have problems you're excited to solve. And once I realized that, like, oh, there are not these, like, thresholds that launch you into, like, a zero inbox, no problems, it's all about, like, do you like the problems you're solving? Do you like the people that you're with? Do you like the lifestyle that it affords? And it just changed from these, like, singular finish line outcomes to a more evolving process that just makes it more fun and also more scalable.
Heather Monahan· Host0:38
Come on this journey with me. Each week, when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow.
Speaker 2· Soundbite0:47
[upbeat music] Faster, no sooner. I'm ready for my close-up.
Heather Monahan· Host0:50
Hi, and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, this week we have a repeat guest on, 'cause she's unbelievable, and you're gonna love her, 'cause you might not have heard her. It's been a minute she's, since she's been on the show. Jess Ekstrom, she's the founder of Headbands of Hope and MicDrop Workshop, investor in women, best-selling author, Forbes top-rated speaker, and she's a mom. Her first brush with success was selling all of her toys on eBay when she was 12. Since then, Jess and her companies have been featured on the Today Show, Good Morning America, and more. More importantly, her companies have helped millions of women and girls around the world. This is true. She's the best-selling author of Chasing the Bright Side, that's when I met you, and