How to Make Friends as an Adult, Solved
11/1/20254 hr 46 min
Friendship is the most important thing nobody talks about. From ancient philosophy to game theory, we break down why friendship isn’t just some social nicety—it’s a biological survival strategy. Plus: the modern forces slowly strangling our ability to connect, and exactly what to do about it. You’ll walk away with a clearer sense of what real friendship looks like, how to build it, and how to stop shooting yourself in the foot every time you try.
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First 90 secondsMark Manson· Host0:00
[gentle music] Hey guys, Mark here. So have you ever had a real breakthrough, like actually understand something about yourself, and then two weeks later you're doing the exact same shit again? That's the problem with online courses and content in general. They can give you the plan, but they can't coach you through the moment when life gets in the way. And then there's another problem with AI tools. They don't actually know you. They just give you generic advice that sounds smart but doesn't translate into your actual life when it really matters. So I tried to solve both of these problems separately. I built nine courses on the stuff that people actually struggle with, boundaries, procrastination, emotions, and then I co-created Purpose, an AI coach that actually learns who you are and challenges you when you need it. Now, they're together for the first time. You do the exercise from the courses, you talk to the coach about what came up, and then the coach already knows your patterns, your blind spots, what you've been working on, and all of the other exercises that you've done. That's how this stuff can actually stick. So for a limited time, I am selling both of my flagship products, the Solve membership courses and the Purpose AI app together once and for all. So check it out. Go to purpose.app/solve. Link is in the show notes below. Welcome back, everybody, to the Solve podcast, the most over-researched and under-rehearsed podcast on the internet. [laughs] I'm number one New York Times bestselling author Mark Manson, and this is my co-host, lead researcher, longtime acquaintance- [laughs] ... Drew Birnie. And we are- Hello ... and we are here to be your friends for the next few hours. You see what I did there, Drew?
Drew Birnie· Co-host1:29
I do see what you