How to feel more loved, with Harry Reis, PhD
5/27/202629 min
Even in our closest relationships, we can sometimes feel misunderstood and disconnected. Relationship researcher Harry Reis, PhD, coauthor of How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most, talks about the difference between being loved and feeling loved; the five “mindsets” that help people build stronger relationships; and why listening, vulnerability and curiosity are key to feeling more loved.
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First 90 secondsSpeaker 10:00
Girl, winter is so last season, and now spring's got you looking at pictures of tank tops with hungry eyes. Your algorithm is feeding you cutoffs. You're thirsty for the sun on your shoulders, that perfect hang-on-the-patio sundress, those sandals you can wear all day and all night. And you've had enough of shopping from your couch, done hoping it looks anything like the picture when you tear open that envelope. It's time for a little in-person spring treat. It's time for a trip to Ross. Work your magic.
Kim Mills· Host0:29
[gentle music] Feeling loved is something all of us want. It's essential to our health and happiness, but we don't always get to experience it, even in our closest relationships. You probably have people in your life who care about you deeply, your friends, your family, a spouse, or a partner, and yet you sometimes still feel unseen or disconnected from them. Why is that? What's the difference between being loved and feeling loved? How do psychologists define love in the first place? Why is feeling loved so essential, and why can it sometimes be so hard to achieve, even when love is there? What gets in the way, and what mindsets or habits can help people feel more loved in their everyday lives? [upbeat music] Welcome to Speaking of Psychology, the flagship podcast of the American Psychological Association that examines the links between psychological science and everyday life. I'm Kim Mills.