How To Ask For What You Want in Bed: Fantasy Edition
4/28/202636 min
In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m diving into the truth about fantasies… why we have them, why so many of us are afraid to share them, and how to talk about them with a partner without pressure or shame. I break down what fantasies actually are (and what they’re not), why silence in relationships often comes from self-protection rather than secrecy, and how to create space for honest, judgment-free conversations about sex. I also take live questions from a caller who’s navigating dating transparency, emotional boundaries, and how to communicate clearly without rushing intimacy. This episode originally aired as a live stream, and I’m so excited to bring it to you as a podcast- real talk, real questions, and practical tools to help you feel more connected, confident, and open in your sex life. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This Episode is sponsored by: Find LUCY near you at https://lucy.co/stores, or save 20% on your first online order at https://lucy.co/SEXWITHEMILY with promo code SEXWITHEMILY Chapters: 00:00 Fantasies Are Not What You Think 01:16 How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure 02:45 Creating A No Judgment Space 04:33 What A Fantasy Actually Is 05:54 The Fear Of Talking About Sex 07:05 Why We Stay Quiet About What We Want 08:09 Different Areas of Fantasies 10:23 What We’re Really Craving 11:20 How To Bring It Up Without Making It Awkward 12:38 Desire, Control, & Trying New Things 16:47 When Two People Are Moving At Different Speeds 18:10 Getting To Know Your Own Desire First 20:54 Caller: Dating Honestly Without Overthinking It 23:49 How To Ask “What Are We?” In A Natural Way 26:55 Being Honest Without Putting Pressure 29:47 Timing Sex & How to Know When It Feels Right Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Emily Morse· Host0:44
Your fantasies are probably not what you think. How to talk about fantasies if you're in a relationship or just dating without pressure or without fear. The core question here is, how do I invite honesty without pressure? But I wanna remind you that sometimes we have fantasies that we don't even want to happen. There's a lot of people who don't even have fantasies. Just, it's also the way our minds work. We have a fear of being judged. If I tell you my fantasy, you are going to judge me. Most important thing is that right now we're talking about why don't we ask for what we want? How do we get our partners to talk more openly about sex, and, like, what is, what is really going on here? [upbeat music] Hi, everyone. How you doing? Thanks, everyone, for joining me for our little live chats here.