How Mental Load Derails Desire| Szn. 5 Ep. 1
5/31/202631 min
The invisible labor no one talks about? It might be the thing killing your desire.
In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy dives into the mental load so many people carry in relationships—the nonstop planning, anticipating, organizing, remembering, and emotional caretaking that quietly drains energy, connection, and eroticism. From managing schedules and groceries to carrying the emotional responsibility for the entire household, this invisible labor can leave people feeling exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from pleasure.
Dr. Jenn explores:
- Why mental overload impacts libido and desire
- The hidden resentment that builds in partnerships
- How “manager mode” blocks playful, erotic energy
- Why simply saying “help me more” often backfires
- The connection between perfectionism, control, and burnout
- How to shift from project manager back into partner
- Ways couples can create more spaciousness, collaboration, and intimacy
This episode is especially for anyone who feels like they’re carrying the relationship logistics, family planning, emotional labor, or invisible responsibilities—and wondering why desire feels so far away lately.
Because your libido may not be broken. It may just be overloaded.
✨ Plus: Dr. Jenn shares details about her self-paced course designed to help women better understand their desire, pleasure, and erotic blueprint.
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Connect with Dr. Jenn:
Instagram: @drjennkennedy
Website: Pleasure Project
Website: Riviera Therapy
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Transcript preview
First 90 secondsJen Kennedy· Host0:00
[upbeat music] Hi, I'm Dr. Jen Kennedy, sexologist, couples therapist, and host of Pleasure Project. This podcast is all about sex, relationships, and the complicated and fascinating space where they collide. We talk about desire, connection, dysfunction, communication, exploration, toys, trends, and the things people usually are thinking about, but not always saying out loud. Some episodes feature leading experts, and sometimes it's just me and honest conversations with you. Either way, the goal is simple: more insight, more connection, and more pleasure. If you enjoy these conversations, you can follow along on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, LinkedIn, @drjenkennedy, or visit my website at drjenkennedy.com for even more resources and conversations around intimacy, relationships. All right, let's get into it. [upbeat music] All right, so welcome back to the Pleasure Project. You might notice things look a little bit different. We have switched things up. We are coming to the couch instead of the desk. So, this is the new studio. So, in this episode, we talk about the mental load that so many people carry and how that creates a lack of desire, the resentment, the frustration, the exhaustion, and the plain boredom. So, we're gonna look at things that get in the way and how you might talk to your partner,