How Charisma Really Works (#310)
7/14/202625 min
Why do some people instantly draw us in?
Olivia Fox Cabane reveals that charisma is not a gift. It is a skill - and most of us misunderstand what creates it.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The three qualities that make someone charismatic
- Why introverts can be highly magnetic
- How people judge you before you speak
- Why presence matters more than performance
- The surprising link between confidence and self-compassion
- Simple ways to become more charismatic immediately
Charisma is not just how people feel about you.
It is how you make them feel about themselves.
Olivia Fox Cabane is the author of The Charisma Myth.
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First 90 secondsLynne Thomann· Host0:00
[chime] How do some people walk into a room and instantly change the energy? They're not always the smartest person, they're not always the funniest, and they're often not the most attractive. But people pay attention to them, and they remember them. So what do they do that the rest of us don't? And can that ability to draw people in actually be learned? [music] Hi, everyone. I'm Lynn Tomen, and this is Three Takeaways. On Three Takeaways, I talk with some of the world's best thinkers, business leaders, writers, politicians, newsmakers, and scientists. Each episode ends with three key takeaways to help us understand the world, and maybe even ourselves, a little better. Today, I'm excited to be with Olivia Fox Cabane. Olivia is the author of the fascinating book, The Charisma Myth. It has become a go-to book for leaders, entrepreneurs, and professionals around the world. She argues that charisma isn't a mysterious gift people are born with. It's a skill, and once you understand how it works, you can learn it. Welcome, Olivia, and thanks so much for joining Three Takeaways today.
Olivia Fox Cabane· Guest1:25
Thank you so much. It's lovely to be here, Lynn.
Lynne Thomann· Host1:29
It is my pleasure.