Hot and Cold in Love: The Real Reason Why
6/5/202636 min
Ever swing between anxious and avoidant with the same person, reaching for them one minute and running the next? That's not you being broken or "too much." In week three of the Breakups by Attachment Style series, Sabrina breaks down disorganized attachment (also called fearful avoidant attachment): the push-pull, hot-and-cold, on-again-off-again pattern that makes you feel like you're losing your mind. Learn what's actually happening in your nervous system, why your relationships keep taking this shape, and why no attachment style ever excuses how someone treats you.
Inside: the research on fearful avoidant attachment in adulthood, a...
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Sabrina Zohar· Host0:55
Do you find yourself vacillating between anxious and avoidant? Like, it doesn't matter who the person is, one minute you're in, one minute you're out. I want them, I don't want them. I reach for them, I run from them, sometimes in the same hour. And you probably have been feeling broken because nothing in the attachment literature seems to fit exactly. What if I told you there was nothing wrong with you? You're not both. You're something else, and maybe you're dating someone like this. The research calls this disorganized attachment or fearful avoidant. Okay, that took me a second. And same shit. Today is your episode, baby, because most attachment content splits