Grief, Trauma & The Emotional Cost of Working Undercover with Author, Advocate & Former Detective Todd McGuire

This episode I'm joined by Todd McGuire from Queensland, Australia, a mental health advocate, former undercover detective, and author of the memoir Donny: An Undercover Cop with a Death Wish. Todd opens up about his life before policing, growing up in a loving home with no major trauma, and how everything changed after the devastating suicide of his partner, Karen, on New Year’s Day in 2000 while her young son was in the home. He shares the heartbreaking moments that followed, the guilt he carried for years, and how that loss shaped the course of his life and mental health. Todd speaks candidly about turning to alcohol and risky behavior to cope with his grief while continuing to work in law enforcement. He explains how he eventually pursued undercover work while silently struggling with PTSD, depression, and suicidal thoughts, often feeling like he no longer cared whether he lived or died. We talk about the psychological toll of undercover operations, the difficulty of returning to normal life afterward, and how trauma can fundamentally change the way a person sees themselves and the world around them. Together we also discuss the stigma surrounding men’s mental health, the lasting impact suicide has on the people left behind, and why so many struggle in silence. Todd shares why he now uses his voice through writing, public speaking, and advocacy to help others feel less alone, while I reflect on the importance of vulnerability, compassion, and honest conversations around trauma. This is an emotional and deeply important episode about survival, grief, PTSD, healing, and the power of speaking openly about mental health. Order Todd’s book and learn more here: https://toddmaguire.com.au/  I’d love to hear from you. If you have questions for me, topics you’d like discussed, or stories you want to share, please reach out through my website at judgingmeghan.com or send me a message on Instagram at @judgingmeghan. Your questions may be featured and answered in an upcoming episode. And if you’re enjoying the podcast, leaving a review really helps support the show and helps more people find these conversations. This podcast is a place for trauma survivors as well as their friends and family. This is a safe environment to be vulnerable but it's also a place for celebration and moving forward. Let's all start to embrace who we are becoming by #mentalhealth #selfcare #self #judgingothers #judgingmeghan #suicideawareness #suicideprevention #survivor #ToddMcGuire #DonnyBook #MentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #PTSD #PTSDAwareness #Trauma #TraumaHealing #Grief #GriefJourney #SuicideLoss #SuicideAwareness #MensMentalHealth #UndercoverCop #FormerDetective #PoliceMentalHealth #FirstResponderMentalHealth #Healing #Resilience #MentalHealthPodcast #PodcastEpisode #EmotionalHealing #TraumaRecovery #SurvivorStory #SpeakUp #YouAreNotAlone #EndTheStigma #DepressionAwareness #AddictionRecovery #HealingJourney #SuicidePrevention #Therapy #MentalWellness #Vulnerability #HopeAfterTrauma #TrueStory Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices