FREE SUBS TASTER: The Married People Claiming 'Hot Divorce Energy'
6/3/20262 min
Hot divorce energy is having a moment and you don’t actually have to be divorced to get in on it. According to an article in The Guardian, 2026 might be the year of the ‘Hot Divorcée Summer.’
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First 90 secondsEmily Vernem· Host0:01
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Mia Freedman· Host0:03
It's actually about what happens when women, particularly in midlife, but at any age, stop performing for everyone else and start performing for themselves. So it sort of talks about how this second rebirth is often triggered by divorce, because after years of carrying a domestic mental load or making compromises because of your partner or considering your partner, when you get divorced, it's a time of intense self-focus.
Holly Wainwright· Host0:33
Mm. Mm.
Mia Freedman· Host0:34
And, you know, it, it's funny, they quote one woman, a comedian, who's 36, and she's not actually even divorced.
Holly Wainwright· Host0:42
[laughs] I know.
Mia Freedman· Host0:43
But she said she's got big divorce energy.
Holly Wainwright· Host0:45
I don't wanna start with a downer, Mare, but I have to- Okay ... on, on the, on the behalf of my, some of my divorced sisters- Yeah ... in the world, they wouldn't like this, like you don't even have to be divorced to have big divorced energy.
Mia Freedman· Host0:57
Oh.
Emily Vernem· Host0:57
Do you think it's divorce appropriation?
Holly Wainwright· Host0:59
[laughs] Well, I reckon that- [laughs] ... it's a bit like yes, but I think it's a bit like, because what they're talking about here is you've been through the hard thing, and then you're coming out the other side, and you've got the like, you know, the butterfly energy that you- Mm ... from going through the cocoon.
Mia Freedman· Host1:11
Mm.
Emily Vernem· Host1:11
You become hot again.
Holly Wainwright· Host1:12
And you can't go around claiming to have hot divorcee energy when you didn't do the custody negotiations, the financial hardship settlements, all that stuff.
Mia Freedman· Host1:22
Mm.
Holly Wainwright· Host1:22
Like, you can't steal... It's like, do you remember that interview with Dolly Alderton, and she said one of the things that annoyed her the most is her coupled-up friends- Oh ... still, like,