Episode 563: Sadia Khan: The Modern Relationship Advice Your Therapist Got Wrong
6/16/20261 hr 54 min
Modern relationship advice is everywhere, and most of it is making your relationships harder, not better. These are the buzzwords that we see spread all over the internet like the misused attachment labels, the "be more vulnerable" coaching, the body count debate, and the love bombing warnings. Sadia has spent years working with couples one-on-one, and almost none of it holds up in real practice. Sadia Khan is a psychotherapist and the author of The Red Flags:The Truth About Love, Trauma, and the Lies Your Therapist Didn't Warn You About, a book built around the 10 questions every therapist should be asking their clients and every partner should be asking each other. She has worked with hundreds of men and women to fix what conventional therapy keeps missing, and her approach has built her one of the largest relationship audiences online. In this episode of Habits and Hustle, Sadia breaks down why your therapist's advice may be quietly hurting your relationship, the real reason high body count damages men more than women, why people pleasers suffer more in relationships than narcissists do, and the four green flags that actually predict whether a couple makes it. This is one of those conversations that will make you rethink every "diagnosis" you have ever given an ex or a friend who’s “avoidant”. What's Discussed: (5:36) Why love languages and attachment theory keep failing real couples. (6:51) The therapy advice that is quietly making men less attractive to their partners. (8:38) Why people pleasers suffer more in relationships than narcissists do. (12:43) How honesty, not niceness, is what builds real intimacy. (21:14) The narcissist label and what insisting on it actually says about you. (31:16) The four green flags every healthy relationship is built on. (1:21:14) Why high body count damages men more than women. (1:45:50) The pattern most men fall into when they cannot be alone. Thank You to Our Sponsors! AirDoctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUSTLE to get up to $300 OFF today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty (an $84 value) FREE! Kion: Visit getkion.com/habits for 20% OFF Momentous: Ready to try supplements that actually do what they claim? Head to livemomentous.com and use code JEN for 35% OFF your first subscription. Therasage: Visit Therasage.com and use code JEN to get 15% OFF your order. Your skin deserves this level of care. Magic Mind: Head over to magicmind.com/jen and use code JEN at checkout. Prolon: Prolon is offering listeners 30% OFF sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Just visit prolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN and use the code JENNIFERCOHEN to claim your discount and your bonus gift. Rho Nutrition: Go to RhoNutrition.com and try Rho's Liposomal Glutathione. Use code JEN20 for 20% OFF sitewide. Manna Vitality: Try it now by using the code Jennifer20 at mannavitality.com. Find more from Jen Cohen: Website: jennifercohen.com Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements Find more from Sadia Khan: Website: sadiapsychology.com Instagram: @thesadiapsychology YouTube: @sadiapsychology TikTok: @sadiapsychology The Red Flags Book: permutedpress.com/book/the-red-flags
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First 90 secondsSadia Khan· Guest0:00
[upbeat music] Hi, guys. It's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits and Hustle. Crush it.
Jennifer Cohen· Host0:04
You guys, we have a very special guest. I know I say this a lot, but I'm a big fan of hers. Her name is Sadia Khan. You probably have seen her all over social media, because she is a viral psychotherapist who gives really, uh, I think, uh, great advice on relationships, men, women, and it's kinda sometimes somewhat polarizing, which is why so- so much of it goes viral. But almost, almost always so spot on and accurate- Mm ... which is why I think also- [laughs] ... people have taken to you the way they have. And she has a new book called Red Flags, and we're gonna talk all about Red Flags.
Sadia Khan· Guest0:43
Amazing.
Jennifer Cohen· Host0:43
And, a- and, and we're gonna talk about so many other things. So Sadia, all the way in from Dubai, thank you so much for being here.
Sadia Khan· Guest0:50
Hello. Thank you so much for having me. It's such a pleasure.
Jennifer Cohen· Host0:52
Oh, such a pleasure.
Sadia Khan· Guest0:53
Yeah.
Jennifer Cohen· Host0:53
I- I've been watching your stuff for years. Like, I mean, probably, what, three, four... How long have you been doing this stuff?
Sadia Khan· Guest0:59
Uh, since 2023, so about three years now.
Jennifer Cohen· Host1:00
Yeah, three years.
Sadia Khan· Guest1:01
Yeah.
Jennifer Cohen· Host1:01
Wow. It feels like it's been longer.
Sadia Khan· Guest1:03
It does feel like that, but I actually, the moment I came on social media, it kind of went viral that day.
Jennifer Cohen· Host1:08
Yeah.
Sadia Khan· Guest1:08
[laughs] So it w- there was no build-up, [laughs] so un- so it feels like people have known me forever, but they literally knew me from the day I started, and it just kinda went from there.
Jennifer Cohen· Host1:16
It's so true.
Sadia Khan· Guest1:16
Which is really weird. Really weird. There was no build-up. There was no slow trajectory. It was just kind of on and off.
Jennifer Cohen· Host1:21
You know, it's funny- Yeah ... because you did explode right off the bat.
Sadia Khan· Guest1:25
Yeah.
Jennifer Cohen· Host1:25
I remember seeing a couple of your videos, and they were so... They, they