Episode 548: The Trick To Doing Things You Don't Feel Like Doing
4/24/202610 min
The problem was never that you didn't know what to do. It's that you keep letting the version of you who doesn't feel like doing it cast the deciding vote. That's the trap. We make decisions based on how we feel before the thing, instead of how we'll feel after it. And before anything hard, the feeling is always the same: tired, unmotivated, full of reasons to wait. If that's the voice you're listening to, of course you're stuck restarting. You've handed the mic to the wrong version of yourself. We try to fix this with more discipline, more motivation, or another reset on Monday. None of it works for long, because none of it changes the question you're asking yourself in the moment that actually matters. In this episode of Habits & Hustle, I break down the one question that changed how I show up for the gym, the hard conversations, and everything I'd rather put off. No system. No reset. Just a different way to decide. You don't need more motivation. You need to stop letting the wrong version of you decide. Let's dive in! What's Discussed: (01:16) The one shift in focus that changes how you make every hard decision. (02:06) Why chasing happiness directly is the reason you never feel it. (03:08) The backwards way we wait for motivation to show up. (04:08) What the gym actually proves about every other thing you avoid. (04:52) The pattern hiding inside one-night stands, tequila, and skipped workouts. (07:41) Why the conversations you're putting off are costing you more than having them. (08:55) The reason rumination makes you suffer twice and how to stop the loop. (09:56) The feeling that should actually drive your decisions (and the one that shouldn't). Thank you to my sponsors!Kion: Visit getkion.com/habits for 20% off. AirDoctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUSTLE to get up to $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty (an $84 value) FREE! AX3®: Visit www.AX3.life to get a 20% discount on your first order with promo code HUSTLE at checkout. Magic Mind: Head over to www.magicmind.com/jen and use code JEN at checkout. Find more from Jen: Website: https://jennifercohen.com Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: https://jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements
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First 90 secondsTony Robbins· Soundbite0:00
[upbeat music] Hi, guys. It's Tony Robbins. You're listening to Habits and Hustle. Crush it. [laughs] And here we are.
Jennifer Cohen· Host0:07
[sighs] Solo episode. We're just, I don't know, just shooting the shit over here with, with Shani and, um, on, on, like, literally the most m- mundane, like, unimportant shit, my hair, and if it's darker or lighter than it used to be.
Tony Robbins· Soundbite0:23
So what do you guys think?
Jennifer Cohen· Host0:24
And if ... Yeah, so what do you think? And I got a little bit of a trim. That's basically the big conversation topic. [laughs] Are you gonna tune out and just move on to the next thing? No, I'm joking. Okay. [laughs] Let's move on. Let's talk about something that I was thinking about last night, which is this idea of what you focus on. I think this is actually really interesting, 'cause I like to focus on things that I think about, not how I feel before I do something, but how I will feel after I do something.
Tony Robbins· Soundbite0:52
Mm.
Jennifer Cohen· Host0:52
Right? So I don't allow how I feel before to shape and decide what I'm gonna do, because a lot of times the things that y- you are, like, that you feel bad about later are the things that you were gonna f- you felt good about before.
Tony Robbins· Soundbite1:09
Mm.
Jennifer Cohen· Host1:10
And the things that you kind of, like, feel like you don't wanna do actually make you feel better after. So focus on how you feel after something, not how you feel before something. Like exercise, right? No one would ever say they felt worse after working out, but they would say they felt worse after