Emotional Outsourcing w/ Béa Albina | Szn. 4 Ep. 16
5/4/202649 min
Ever find yourself needing your partner to reassure you that you’re okay, desirable, or enough? That’s emotional outsourcing—and it quietly drains intimacy and desire.
In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy sits down with Bea Victoria Albina to unpack how this pattern forms, why it shows up in both daily life and the bedroom, and how it can keep you stuck in cycles of disconnection. Together, they explore what it really means to take your power back—by reclaiming your voice, setting boundaries that actually hold, and rebuilding desire from the inside out.
If you’ve been feeling a little too dependent on your partner’s validation (or just a little off in your connection), this conversation will help you shift the dynamic—without losing the relationship.
Because desire doesn’t thrive on reassurance—it thrives on ownership.
If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs a little reminder that they’re already enough—and don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the show to help more people find these conversations.
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First 90 secondsJen Kennedy· Host0:00
[upbeat music] Hi, it's Dr. Jen Kennedy. I'm a sexologist and couples therapist. The Pleasure Project is about sex and relationships. That includes desire, dysfunction, dissatisfaction, exploration, toys, and trends. Sometimes I'll enlist other experts, sometimes it'll just be me. We'll increase your insight and enhance your pleasure, so tune in. [upbeat music] Ever find yourself looking to your partner to tell you you're okay, desirable, or enough? That's emotional outsourcing. It's a sneaky buzzkill for intimacy. Today, I'm talking to Bea Victoria Albina about how this pattern forms, how it shows up both in the everyday as well as in the bedroom, and how to reclaim your voice, your boundaries, and your desire. So tune in. [upbeat music] All right. So welcome back. My guest today is Beatriz, or Bea, Victoria Albina. She brings together science and the sacred. She is a family nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, and she is also the bestselling author and, of "Emotional Outsourcing: A Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionistic, and People-Pleasing Habits," which we are going to unpack. With over 20 years of experience in health and wellness, Bea works as a somatic life coach with a focus on helping humans socialized as women reconnect