E266: Ask a Sex Therapist (Part 3) Sex Pillows, Squirting, and Standing-Up Sex
6/25/202657 min
You send us your most "I can't believe I'm actually asking this" questions, and we live for it.
So we're back with the third edition of Ask a Sex Therapist, going rapid-fire through as many of them as we can, with real answers, tips, and stories.
No question is too awkward, too niche, or too "is it too late to ask this at my age?"
💛 In this episode, you'll hear:
- What "tossed salad" actually means, because it's never too late to ask
- How to tell if you're about to squirt or pee, and whether squirting is even real
- Is the G-spot orgasm real? We settle it
- Sex pillows and spit as lube: the honest yes-or-no on both
- Why standing-up sex never seems to work, and how to fix it
- Why a partner might go soft when you're on top
- Strap-ons as a tool for guys facing performance pressure
- Whether it's worth shaking things up when your sex is already great
If you've ever sat on a question because it felt too weird to say out loud, consider this your permission slip. Chances are, someone else is wondering the exact same thing.
🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
Get the TABU Pillow
Comfortable, discreet, and actually changes the angle in ways that make a big difference . We’re obsessed. 👉🏻 [INSERT LINK]
💦 Variety is the spice of life (and your sex life)
Ultimate Sex Positions is our guide to over forty illustrated positions, with step-by-step help getting into, out of, and moving in each one.
- Over 40 positions with clear, illustrated, step-by-step guidance
- The fixes for the ones that never seem to work (standing-up sex, we see you)
- Toe-curling, bedsheet-gripping experiences built for both of you
- Plus the secret to actually craving more sex
👉🏻 Check out Ultimate Sex Positions here: https://vmtherapy.com/ultimatesex
💪 For the guys: no shame in your game
The Modern Man's Guide to Conquering Performance Pressure gets into what's happening in your brain and your body, so sex feels good instead of stressful.
- A holistic approach to performance anxiety and erections
- Real help for early ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and going soft
- Build genuine confidence in your technique
- For hotter, more satisfying sex, minus the stress
👉🏻 Check out The Modern Man's Guide here: https://vmtherapy.com/modernman
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First 90 secondsVanessa Marin· Host0:00
Okay, a little behind the scenes peek here. We [laughs] we had to stop for a second 'cause Xander can't remember what... [laughs] Xander can't remember what PE stands for.
Xander Marin· Host0:09
[laughs] I, I know exactly what they're talking about.
Vanessa Marin· Host0:12
He can't. He's like, penis erection. [laughs] [laughs] [upbeat music] Hello and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast. We're your hosts, Vanessa.
Xander Marin· Host0:28
And Xander Marin.
Vanessa Marin· Host0:29
I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
Xander Marin· Host0:32
And I'm just a regular dude. We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.
Vanessa Marin· Host0:39
Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you'd had. Welcome back to another round of Ask a Sex Therapist. So we do weekly Ask Us Anything question boxes on Instagram on Thursdays. You should definitely be checking that out. We're at vanessaandxander. And we have a lot of fun with it, but you only get 60 seconds to answer a question [laughs] on Instagram.
Xander Marin· Host1:17
And there's only, there's so many that we can answer before Instagram starts to penalize us for posting too many stories.
Vanessa Marin· Host1:22
Yeah.
Xander Marin· Host1:23
And then no one sees anything that we post, which is... Our Instagram is really, like, a love hate relationship over here.