E257: Am I The Asshole? Oversharing, Snoring, and Body Shaming
4/24/20261 hr 4 min
One of our favorite series is back. You sent us your wildest, messiest, most "wait… am I the problem here?" relationship stories. And we have opinions. We're talking about a wife who's been sharing intimate details about her husband with her entire family for years (but only good things, so it's fine… right?). A partner who was a little too honest about his wife's body (brutal). Neighbors banging on the ceiling mid-sex. And a whole lot more. Some of these had us genuinely torn. Others? Not so much. 💛 In this episode, you'll hear: Is it okay to talk about your sex life with friends and family… even if your partner doesn't know? When "just being honest" about attraction crosses a line The initiation that was so bad it killed the mood instantly What happens when your neighbor tries to police your sex life Our honest takes on every single one (and we don't always agree) Whether you're here to feel validated, get a reality check, or just enjoy some relationship drama that isn't yours… this one's a fun ride. 🔗 Links & Resources Catch up on past AITA episodes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode199 https://vmtherapy.com/episode187 https://vmtherapy.com/episode155 https://vmtherapy.com/episode135 https://vmtherapy.com/episode125 🔥 Want to give your partner the best foreplay they’ve ever had? The Ultimate Foreplay Guides are our step-by-step guides to expertly pleasuring your partner, with detailed techniques, animated GIFs, and audio walkthroughs. • Over 100 unique techniques for fingering, oral, hand jobs, and blow jobs • Beautiful animated illustrations so you know exactly what to do • Written and audio versions of both guides • Inclusive language and visuals, because everyone deserves great pleasure Stop guessing and start giving your partner a “my soul just left my body” experience. 👉🏻 Check out The Ultimate Foreplay Guides here: https://buy.vmtherapy.com/ultimate-foreplay-guides? Stay connected 💛 📸 Follow us on Instagram → https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander 💌 Get our weekly email — real talk, expert tips, and zero shame → https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe 🎧 Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you get your podcasts!
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First 90 secondsVanessa Marin· Host0:00
I think this is a really interesting question. If you live in a space, whether it's an apartment complex or with roommates, where others could hear you, are you obligated to be quiet when you have sex? [upbeat music] Hello, and welcome to the Pillow Talks podcast. We're your hosts, Vanessa And Xander Marin. I'm a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience.
Xander Marin· Host0:27
And I'm just a regular dude. We share the ups and downs in our relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.
Vanessa Marin· Host0:34
Make sure you subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you'd had. We are back today with a fan favorite series, Am I the Asshole?
Xander Marin· Host0:58
Also a personal favorite. I love these episodes.
Vanessa Marin· Host1:00
I do, too. So we cannot take credit for this. This is a Reddit creation. There's a whole Reddit subthread, so if you love this episode, you can go on over there afterwards. Um, but there's a whole subthread all about this where people write in, then they say, "Here's the situation that I am in. It's leaving me wondering, am I the asshole in this situation? Like, am I in the wrong, or is the other person in the wrong?"
Xander Marin· Host1:25
Yeah.
Vanessa Marin· Host1:25
"Is the other person the asshole?"
Xander Marin· Host1:26
AITA.
Vanessa Marin· Host1:27
Yes.
Xander Marin· Host1:27
Am I the Asshole? Though I will say, on Reddit,