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The Imperfects

Dr Emily - Acceptance, That's Radical

3/1/20261 hr 16 min

Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist and general provider of wisdom, is here to talk about radical acceptance.

Drawing inspiration from our holy grail episode with Gina Chick, Dr Em deep dives radical acceptance; what is it, how do we cultivate it, and why is it important to us as human beings?

According to Dr Em, radical acceptance is not about liki...

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Transcript preview

First 90 seconds

  1. Emily Musgrove· Guest0:00

    [gentle music] Pain in life is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.

  2. Ryan Shelton· Host0:06

    Mm.

  3. Emily Musgrove· Guest0:06

    And that's really what radical acceptance is about. Now, we can't control that this pain is here, but the mind is trying to. So it's trying to get rid of it, it doesn't want it, it doesn't like it, and that reaction to the first pain is actually what creates suffering.

  4. Ryan Shelton· Host0:23

    Mm.

  5. Emily Musgrove· Guest0:24

    So we go from having pain to having pain and suffering. It's not about accepting horrific circumstances. It's not about accepting what's happening outside of us, but actually accepting what's happening inside of us.

  6. Hugh van Cuylenburg· Host0:40

    I have lived radical acceptance for the last, I would say, five years.

  7. Emily Musgrove· Guest0:43

    Mm-hmm.

  8. Hugh van Cuylenburg· Host0:44

    I'm so much more compassionate to everyone and I love so much more. I have so much more love for so many more things, and it's because of the journey of radical acceptance.

  9. Emily Musgrove· Guest0:53

    Instead of feeling better, it's finding a better way of feeling.

  10. Ryan Shelton· Host0:57

    Quick, is anyone here a doctor? [upbeat music] Yes, her name is Dr Emily, and she's a psychologist. Please welcome to The Imperfects our very own psychologist. Don't worry if you haven't made a booking. Don't need to make an appointment. You've just got a session with Dr Em- [laughs] ... for free. [laughs] That's good.

  11. Emily Musgrove· Guest1:19

    [laughs] Yeah.

  12. Hugh van Cuylenburg· Host1:19

    It's really good.

  13. Ryan Shelton· Host1:20

    Yeah. How are you, Em?

  14. Emily Musgrove· Guest1:21

    I'm excellent.

  15. Ryan Shelton· Host1:22

    Good to see you.

  16. Emily Musgrove· Guest1:22

    I'm so happy to be here.

  17. Ryan Shelton· Host1:24

    Are you?

  18. Hugh van Cuylenburg· Host1:24

    Oh, yeah.

  19. Emily Musgrove· Guest1:24

    It's great.

  20. Hugh van Cuylenburg· Host1:24

    I'll tell you who else is happy that you're here.

  21. Emily Musgrove· Guest1:26

    Yeah.

  22. Hugh van Cuylenburg· Host1:26

    The Resilience Project.

  23. Emily Musgrove· Guest1:27

    Oh.

  24. Hugh van Cuylenburg· Host1:28

    I walked in, I thought, "Why is there so many people here today?"

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