Did You Mean Anything To Them? What's Really Going On With The Avoidant After A Breakup

Sabrina Zohar· Host0:00

Six weeks after the breakup, you're in your car crying, and they're at brunch. Three months out, you're still not sleeping, and they have a new person. And a year later, you're finally coming up for air, and that's the week they text you out of nowhere saying they miss you. Or maybe you just never fucking heard from them again. And every single one of you has asked some version of the same question. Are they actually fine? Do they ever feel it? Were they always going to leave? Avoid and discard is hard as shit. And this is part two of four in this breakup series. Last week was anxious, today is avoidant, and today is the episode that answers the question you have been asking yourself at 3:00 AM for months. What is actually happening inside this person? Are they okay? And did they ever love me? But baby, here's what I'm gonna tell you, and I want you to hear it crystal fucking clear before we start. The research has an answer. It's not the answer you want, it's not the answer they'd give you, and it's not the answer most attachment content gives you, because most content either makes avoidants out to be secretly suffering angels or cold sociopaths, and neither of those is true. The truth is more specific, more measurable, and honestly, more [laughs] interesting than either of those. So let's fucking go. Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar, and I am your host. I'm sorry. I can't keep it in. Can you guys see what's next to me? Do, do you see the, the book? It's my book. Oh my God. So my book came out. Ah. Well, it's on presale right now, but it's official. You guys can see it. I've been waiting for this day. I've been waiting, I've been waiting, and I'm so excited 'cause you guys are my babes and I get to share it with you. [sighs] Thank you, guys. Thank you for believing me to the