David Archuleta OPENS UP About Being a Gay Mormon
4/20/20261 hr 5 min
Before David Archuleta became a household name as the runner up on American Idol and a multi-platinum recording artist, he was a kid who didn't believe in himself, terrified of being exposed, and convinced that who he was at his core was something he needed to hide. Then he met Ronda Truman Ford, a Nashville mom who opened her home, her heart, and gave him something he'd never experienced before: a place where he could belong without expectations. In this raw and deeply personal conversation, the singer sits down with David Begnaud to share the story of the woman who believed in him when he was too afraid to believe in himself. David opens up about meeting Ronda when he was just 18, exhausted & longing for a home cooked meal and a sense of family. He talks about how Ronda invited him in, cooked for him, held game nights, and made him feel seen not as a celebrity, but as a person. He shares what it felt like to move to Nashville at 24 after serving a two year mission in Chile, still closeted, still codependent, and how Ronda became his accountability partner, his gym buddy, and the safe place he needed to start healing. She never forced him to change. She just made him want to grow. Get more stories that remind you the world is still good. Sign up for our free newsletter: www.thedogoodcrew.com Thank you to Canva for believing in the power of storytelling and helping us bring this podcast to life: https://canva.com Chapters ☀️ Chapters 00:00:00 Intro: The Nashville Mom Who Saw Him Whole 00:01:49 Game Night in Nashville: The First Meeting That Changed Everything 00:04:06 Moving to Nashville: Searching for a Place to Belong 00:06:23 What Do You Want in Return? Learning Unconditional Love 00:10:35 The Dad Who Pushed Too Hard: Growing Up Under Jeff's Control 00:17:53 The Accusation That Shattered Everything: A Family Secret at Age Nine 00:20:50 I Was Used to Being Obedient: Homeschooling and Hiding Who He Was 00:23:48 The Late-Night Conversations: Ronda's Table and the Healing That Began 00:13:23 She Knew I Was Gay Before I Did: The Permission to Be Myself 00:23:48 I'm a Living Contradiction: Being the Mormon Poster Boy While Struggling Inside 00:37:40 The Prayer That Saved My Life: When God Said Stop Asking Me This 00:33:10 Three Engagements to Women: The Desperate Attempt to Be Straight 00:57:36 I Almost Chose Not to Be Here: Writing His Will and the Fear of Failing 00:25:47 Singing at Her Bedside: The Week COVID Shut Down and Ronda Passed Away 00:26:22 Thank You for Giving Me a Safe Place: What David Would Say to Ronda Today 00:50:06 The Paralyzed Vocal Cord That Became His Story: Turning a Flaw Into Fame 00:40:18 From Agnostic to Raves: Finding God Outside the Mormon Church 00:43:29 To the Gay Mormon Watching This: It's Okay to Take a Break 00:49:18 I Can't Keep It to Myself: Why Visibility Matters More Than Silence 01:00:35 Devoted to Being Alive: Making Mistakes On Purpose and Living Without Regret 01:03:10 You Are Not a Mistake: David's Message to Anyone Who Feels Wrong ABOUT THIS PODCAST: The Person Who Believed In Me is hosted by David Begnaud, founder and CEO of Do Good Crew and often called "America's storyteller." In each episode, David sits down with world-class guests to ask one simple question: Who believed in you before the world did? Big names. Honest stories. Relatable takeaways. Different paths — same question. David is also a CBS News contributor and host of the weekly segment Beg Knows America, which airs every Monday morning. Host: David Begnaud Guest: David Archuleta Executive Producer: Olivier Delfosse Associate Producer: Jonah Johnson Booker: Sully Bloch Director of Photography: Foster Parks Live Production Technician: Joseph Gabay & Will Whitley (Statik Creative) Director of Social: Mariah Maull Theme Music: Slipstream Post-Production: Longwave Digital CONNECT WITH US: The Person Who Believed In Me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/believedpodcast
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First 90 secondsDavid Archuleta· Guest0:00
I'm a living contradiction to what I'm supposed to stand for. I was on my knees praying, begging God to change me. God said, "David, stop asking me this. They don't see you the way I do. They don't get it, and it's time for you to get it."
David Begnaud· Host0:14
A multi-platinum artist, viral sensation.
David Archuleta· Guest0:16
Sang his way into our hearts on American Idol.
David Begnaud· Host0:19
He's asking big questions about faith, identity, and what devotion really means. David Archuleta.
David Archuleta· Guest0:24
She was my Nashville mom. She wasn't trying to say, "Oh, you're a poor, little, defenseless bird, like, we need to take care of you." She made me feel like I could do something good for myself. I thought that was something that was bad, like I thought I was supposed to stay away from gay people, and she said, "What's wrong with that?" And she taught me that I could love myself for who I am, even though I didn't yet.
David Begnaud· Host0:47
That's very powerful.
David Archuleta· Guest0:48
I think I was kinda used to, "Okay, what do you want in return?"
David Begnaud· Host0:51
Mm.
David Archuleta· Guest0:51
And she's like, "Oh, no. Nothing. I'm just trying to pay it forward."
David Begnaud· Host0:53
You were at her bedside, I believe, when she died.
David Archuleta· Guest0:56
Yeah. I was just so grateful for her. Thank you so much for giving me a safe place and just helped me feel like I belonged.
David Begnaud· Host1:06
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