Dating, Solved: Why Finding the Right Person Feels So Hard
2/4/20264 hr 38 min
Most people aren’t bad at dating, they’re just trying to solve the wrong problem. We treat dating like a personality test (“Am I attractive enough? Confident enough?”) when it’s actually a multi-stage process, and each stage punishes completely different mistakes. That one misunderstanding explains why dating feels so confusing, why men and women keep blaming each other, why dating apps feel brutal, and why so much dating advice makes things worse instead of better.
In this episode of Solved, Drew and I break down why modern dating feels so broken, and why it actually isn’t. We...
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First 90 secondsMark Manson· Host0:00
[gentle music] Hey guys, Mark here. So have you ever had a real breakthrough, like actually understand something about yourself, and then two weeks later you're doing the exact same shit again? That's the problem with online courses and content in general. They can give you the plan, but they can't coach you through the moment when life gets in the way. And then there's another problem with AI tools. They don't actually know you. They just give you generic advice that sounds smart, but doesn't translate into your actual life when it really matters. So I tried to solve both of these problems separately. I built nine courses on the stuff that people actually struggle with, boundaries, procrastination, emotions, and then I co-created Purpose, an AI coach that actually learns who you are and challenges you when you need it. Now, they're together for the first time. You do the exercise from the courses, you talk to the coach about what came up, and then the coach already knows your patterns, your blind spots, what you've been working on, and all of the other exercises that you've done. That's how this stuff can actually stick. So for a limited time, I am selling both of my flagship products, the Solved membership courses and the Purpose AI app together once and for all. So check it out. Go to purpose.app/solved. Link is in the show notes below. Welcome back everybody to Solved. I am Mark Manson, and today I have a question for you. Is your dating life starting to look like a Wendy's dumpster fire?
Drew· Co-host1:16
Why Wendy's?
Mark Manson· Host1:17
Why did you [laughs] [laughs] What, what's wr- It's, it's- What's wrong with Wendy's dumpsters? [laughs] Like, is it that bad?
Drew· Co-host1:24
It's actually a subtle It's Always Sunny reference, but yeah.
Mark Manson· Host1:27
Okay. Anyway.
Drew· Co-host1:28
Anyway.
Mark Manson· Host1:28
[laughs] Is your dating life looking