Building an Emotionally Healthy Marriage (Part 1 of 2)
5/5/202627 min
Conflict in marriage can often feel like an all-consuming and explosive cycle that eats away at peace. It’s essential to acknowledge past experiences that contribute to these negative cycles. Ron (a licensed marriage and family therapist) and his wife Nan describe how self-regulation and retraining the brain's triggers can help bring restoration and healing in a marriage. The couple shares their own journey through the tragic loss of their young son and how these principles impacted that difficult process.
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Ron Deal· Guest0:30
[upbeat music] What do you mean we don't talk anymore?
Nan Deal· Guest0:35
When was the last time we sat down a- and just had a conversation?
Ron Deal· Guest0:38
For crying out loud, what do you think we're doing now? I could be watching the game. I could be playing the computer.
Nan Deal· Guest0:42
Watch your silly game, okay?
Ron Deal· Guest0:43
Fine.
Nan Deal· Guest0:44
Alone.
Ron Deal· Guest0:44
I usually do.
John Fuller· Host0:45
Hmm, well, maybe you and your spouse know conflict like that all too well. Uh, like you've memorized that pattern and those habits and the dance steps, and every time you have a disagreement or a tough issue to navigate, there you are again. If you can relate, we have some hope and practical help for you today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I'm John Fuller and thanks for joining us.
Jim Daly· Host1:07
You know, how many couples have these disagreements, and then hours later, days later, you're going, "What? What was our problem? What were we talking [laughs] about? What we were fighting about?"
John Fuller· Host1:16
Can't even remember. Yeah.
Jim Daly· Host1:16
You can remember the intensity of it.
John Fuller· Host1:18
Hmm.
Jim Daly· Host1:18
But oftentimes you don't even remember what the, what the noun of the trouble was. You know, what was the subject? And, uh, that's because we're reacting out of a dysfunction somewhere