Begin Again Moments: Female Fantasy & Asking For What You Want | Gillian Anderson & Cindy Gallop
5/3/202619 min
In this powerful episode, Gillian Anderson opens up about what women really want; exploring the hidden world of female fantasy and the surprising truth about how little we’ve progressed when it comes to openly talking about desire. Drawing from thousands of anonymous submissions to her book, she reveals the shame, curiosity, and untapped honesty that still surrounds women’s inner lives. Sex expert Cindy Gallop then takes the conversation one step further, sharing practical, empowering advice on how to actually ask for what you want in the bedroom, and just as importantly, how to express what you don’t. From navigating awkward conversations to turning communication into something genuinely exciting, she breaks down how owning your voice can transform not just your sex life, but your confidence everywhere else too. Together, these moments explore desire, communication, and the power of knowing, and asking for, what you truly want. Watch the Full Episode With Cindy Here: https://youtu.be/PAnPAbVZvmg Watch the full episode with Gillian Here: https://youtu.be/XKQOTwY7TRk Saily - Download from the app store and use code DAVINA at the checkout for 15% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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First 90 secondsDavina McCall· Host0:00
You said about, um, sex education being a kind of stepping stone to Want. And I, I, I really want to get to Want.
Gillian Anderson· Guest0:06
Yeah.
Davina McCall· Host0:07
Um, h- how did Want come about? Like, what was your, um, thinking and, and how did... How was it born?
Gillian Anderson· Guest0:17
Uh, it actually, uh, in the first instance, wasn't my thinking at all. It was, uh, it was my literary agent who had come across her mother's copy of My Secret Garden.
Davina McCall· Host0:32
Oh, wow.
Gillian Anderson· Guest0:33
Uh, yeah. So she had, um- So let's talk about My Secret Garden. Yeah.
Davina McCall· Host0:39
For anybody that doesn't know- Yeah ... what it is, because I think actually they should all go and buy it- Yeah ... if they haven't read it.
Gillian Anderson· Guest0:44
They've just republished it actually.
Davina McCall· Host0:45
Um, and that's thanks to you.
Gillian Anderson· Guest0:47
Yeah.
Davina McCall· Host0:47
[laughs] They're probably very happy about that. So could you just explain- Um ... what Secret Garden is?
Gillian Anderson· Guest0:51
So, so Nancy Friday was an author in the '70s, um, and she decided that she was going to put together, um, she was going to ask her friendship group and her community to write in sexual fantasies to her anonymously, and she would publish them under the name My Secret Garden. And so it, it was, you know, a relatively small, uh, community cross-section of women, but there were, um, some really, really, uh, raw, moving, sexy, um,