431. Why a boring life is beautiful
6/22/202628 min
What might be seen as a ‘boring’ life is often just a life that wouldn’t be as popular on Instagram. In a world that glamorises chaos, spontaneity and constant stimulation, we need to create lives that truly nourish us, provide safety, and align with who we really are. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind why so many of us begin craving calm as we get older, why that can feel oddly threatening, and why slowing down may be one of the best things we can do for our brains.
We explore:
• Why many of us start craving a more manageable, peaceful life
• Why this can create fear, guilt, or cognitive dissonance in our 20s
• The pressure from social media to make youth look chaotic and exciting
• The role of FOMO in feeling disconnected from our real preferences
• Why our brains crave novelty
• What a ‘boring’ life is actually made of: boundaries, routine, presence, and self-trust
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https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563213000800
https://www.nature.com/articles/nrn1052
https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.1250830
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First 90 secondsJemma Sbeg· Host0:00
This is an iHeart podcast. [upbeat jingle] Guaranteed Human. [gentle music] Hello, everybody. I'm Jemma Spake, and welcome back to The Psychology of Your 20s, the podcast where we talk through the biggest changes, moments, and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology. Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to the podcast. It is so great to have you here back for another episode as we, of course, break down the psychology of our 20s. Today, let me get on my soapbox for a second and say a boring life is a beautiful life. It is my belief that every single day we face this wall of content that wants to convince you that what you are doing isn't enough. And if you were to listen to this, like, tidal wave of, like, videos and posts and whatnot, you would honestly believe that everybody has more motivation than you, everybody has more friends than you, everybody has more clothes, more money, more kind of like action going on in their life. First of all, that's not true, but second, being boring is a radical act. There is no one to impress. There is no one else's life that you wanna copy because