30 Years Married: Why Most Couples Are Living TOGETHER But Don't Know Each Other
5/20/202641 min
In this powerful episode of unbroken podcast, host Richard Akita sits down with Rami Baitie - corporate trainer, veteran radio personality, lifelong DJ, and a man who has been married to the same woman for 30 years. Rami opens up about the truth nobody tells young couples: that lasting marriage isn't about chemistry - it's about intentionality, grace, and the daily decision to live with your partner, not alongside them. From being a painfully shy stammerer who couldn't even say his own name… to becoming one of Ghana's most recognised radio voices… to being chased and proposed to by the woman who would become his wife - Rami's story is unfiltered, vulnerable, and brutally honest. Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Meeting Rami the DJ 00:01:55 The Power of Passion: DJing for Four Decades 00:09:16 Overcoming Stammering Through Radio 00:06:54 How We Met: She Chased Me 00:14:22 Early Marriage: Life Happened 00:04:44 The Grace of God and Intentional Love 00:19:06 Managing Disagreements: The Kiss Before You Leave 00:24:23 Living With vs Living Alongside Your Partner 00:27:57 Keeping Romance Alive: Cards, Date Nights, and Small Gestures 00:35:34 Preparing for the Empty Nest ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ABOUT GUEST Rami Baitie - prominent Ghanaian media personality, communication expert, and educator IG: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rami-baitie-60b19866/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎙️ ABOUT THE HOST Mr Richard Akita is a multifaceted relationship and life coach, author, entrepreneur, and corporate trainer with over 30–35 years of experience in management and personal development. IG: https://www.instagram.com/akitarichard/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🎧 ABOUT UNBROKEN PODCAST Unbroken Podcast is where stories meet truth. Hosted by Richard Akita, the show brings together thinkers, builders, healers, and disruptors to have the conversations most people are afraid to have — about love, faith, identity, money, family, and the journey to becoming whole. Welcome to the new home of unfiltered wisdom. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode 👍 LIKE if this conversation challenged you
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First 90 secondsRichard Akita· Host0:00
A lot of people end up divorcing because they don't know each other. So how have you prepared for it?
Rami Baitie· Guest0:04
I might never have married her. Sometimes she will do things that will make you think, "Where is she from? Where is she from? I don't know her. What's she doing in my bed?"
Richard Akita· Host0:11
Mm. Mm.
Rami Baitie· Guest0:12
"How did she get into my bed?"
Richard Akita· Host0:13
Mm. Mm.
Rami Baitie· Guest0:13
Then you look again, it's your wife.
Richard Akita· Host0:15
Or was it an arranged marriage?
Rami Baitie· Guest0:16
I'm painfully shy. I'm a stammerer. At the time we met, I was still stammering. To be honest with you, if you asked me my name, I couldn't mention it. You're not gonna believe this. One of the things that helped my stammering was [beep].
Richard Akita· Host0:27
Oh.
Rami Baitie· Guest0:29
I believe to this day that is what made me a better stammerer.
Richard Akita· Host0:32
How are you maintaining the passion between your- yourself and your dear wife?
Rami Baitie· Guest0:35
Well, everything is fine.
Richard Akita· Host0:37
Mm.
Rami Baitie· Guest0:37
We wake up in the morning, "Sweetheart, are you going to work?" "Mm-hmm." "Okay, bye-bye." What happens in between going to work and coming back home?
Richard Akita· Host0:44
How did you manage those disagreements when it became so heated?
Rami Baitie· Guest0:49
I realized the answer was [beep].
Richard Akita· Host0:51
Ah. Is happiness a destination?
Rami Baitie· Guest0:55
There's a huge difference between living alongside a person and living with a person.
Richard Akita· Host1:02
Hi, I'm Richard Akita. Welcome to Unbroken Podcast. I've been looking forward to this conversation with this great friend of mine, um, he's Rami Beiti. And Rami, you know, he's given me all the things I'm supposed to say, but let me start with this one. Rami, in his twilight years, is still a DJ. He plays