3 Ways You’re Weakening Your Message Without Knowing It
4/21/202623 min
Join me on Supercast for ad-free episodes, bonus content, and AMAs: https://jefferson.supercast.com/ There are three mistakes I see people make in conversations every single day—and they’re quietly destroying relationships without you realizing it. In this episode, I break down why using absolutes like “always” and “never” instantly derails communication, how overexplaining weakens your message, and why the first seven seconds of any conversation matter more than everything that follows. If you want to be heard, respected, and taken seriously, this is where you start. Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 20% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. Butcher Box: $20 off your first box and free shipping at https://butcherbox.com/jefferson Mill. Try risk-free for 90 days and get $75 off at https://www.mill.com/jefferson and use code JEFFERSON at checkout. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Order my book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTok Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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First 90 secondsJefferson Fisher· Host0:00
Before we get into it, quick note. I just launched a premium version of the podcast on Supercast. If you want ad-free episodes, bonus content, and AMAs where I answer your questions directly, it's all there. If you'd like to support the show and get access to all of that, I want you to go to jefferson.supercast.com, or you can check the link in the description below to join. All right. Let's get into it. [upbeat music] The top three mistakes that I see communicators make are, one, they use absolutes, the always and the nevers; two, they overexplain their words; and three, they find a way to not take control of the first seven seconds of the conversation. Without those seven seconds, everything else does not fall into place. This is the Jefferson Fisher Podcast. You know what it is if you're listening, and this is good content for you. If you would just please press the subscribe button. It means a lot to me, my family, and tells wherever you're listening that this is good content. I wanna get right into it. So number one, if you don't wanna make this mistake, it's very simple, but it's also very hard: absolutes. You know what it's like when you're in conversation with people, or let's... better yet, in an argument with somebody, probably somebody you're very close with, uh, might be married to, might be in a relationship with, and they use this word right here: always. Usually there's something that comes right before it, and it's the word you. They say, "You always..." "You never..." They're generally not positive